June 04, 2008
Its been tough
I have had a tough time keeping up with multiple blogs, and this one has been neglected. So much has happened since March and all of it can be found on my livejournal account.
Also places to visit for more updated info.
My Website - Mr Hayes Valley Leather 2008
AIM = desmond94114
Yahoo = desp1969
Google Talk = MrHayesValleyLeather2008
Chat with me via my webpage (If Im online)
To everyone who followed this journey, I invite you to join me in my next one.
Ive been in SF now 4 years, and its been a great place to be. Thanks to my friends, family, and all the love in my life.
Posted by Des at 10:15 AM | Comments (0)
Its been tough
I have had a tough time keeping up with multiple blogs, and this one has been neglected. So much has happened since March and all of it can be found on my livejournal account.
Also places to visit for more updated info.
My Website - Mr Hayes Valley Leather 2008
AIM = desmond94114
Yahoo = desp1969
Google Talk = MrHayesValleyLeather2008
Chat with me via my webpage (If Im online)
To everyone who followed this journey, I invite you to join me in my next one.
Ive been in SF now 4 years, and its been a great place to be. Thanks to my friends, family, and all the love in my life.
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March 11, 2008
Update
For those of you who still read my blog here, I just wanted to give a quick update.
I won the title for Mr Hayes Valley Leather 2008 and will be competing for Mr San Francisco Leather April 5th, and for International Mr Leather Memorial Day weekend.
With this, I also have taken on more responsibility to my community, and getting involved more with different charitable organizations. Im looking forward to a year of hard work and making a difference in our community. Of course I cant do it alone and will most likely need the help of my friends.
Several places to find pictures of the contest which included pre-judging, casual leather, formal leather with a speech, and jock strap/physique.
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February 09, 2008
More filming for Milk
Last night David came up and we headed down to Market & Van Ness for the filming of the candle light march for the film Milk. It was nice to see some people who read the webpage to bring your own candles and what to wear. So many did nothing to disguise themselves or to blend in to the time period. Perhaps they werent actually planning on trying to make the final cut but David and I were dressed.
Ran into several people while waiting to begin. Saw my LJ friend, whtbraces, whom I never met but have always enjoyed his blog. Turns out both him and his partner are really great people.
So filming started, and we started at 12th. We walked up a few blocks toward Castro, lit our candles, and started filming. On the way up we got to see on the sides James Franco who was filming one of his scenes. Can I just say WOOF!!?
After the initial filming, they weeded people down to people who are only in 70s garb, and got rid of everyone else. They continued filming with us for several takes before moving on. I really think we may have a chance of being in the movie but we wont know till October or November when its released. We finally continued to film more of the march scenes from Monday night (different location) and David and I were finally exhausted at 3am and left. We went to Orphan Andys for food, and came home and crashed.
What a great time.....
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February 05, 2008
Part of the Movie
It was amazing! I arrived at Castro Theater not expecting much more than watching the documentary The Times of Harvey Milk. What I got was Gus Van Sant, Emile Hirsh, and several other actors, directors, and producers, on stage talking about the production and their connection to the movie and Harvey Milk.
Watching the film at the Castro Theater was fantastic. Seeing it on the big screen with a theater full of gays was great. Finally, when the movie was over they brought out the SF Marching Band and the SF Gay Mens Chorus.
Finally the shooting (not literally). Two marches, different settings. The first march was the march after Anita Bryants march on family values. It wasn't an angry march but one that needed to be done. The crowd started as casual, unfocused until Sean Penn Harvey jumped up on the stage and spoke. The crowd responded and followed him off and into the march chanting "Gay Rights For All". I got a whistle to blow *giggle*....
They filmed about 5 takes before changing the scene on the same march. As they did, I was amazed when I looked up and saw Sean Penn less that 3 feet from me. He really does looks fantastic as Harvey Milk and the makeup people did a great job.
The second scene for the march had us miming the chants and raising our fists. It makes me remember I'm just an extra by being so silent, however recreating the march made me feel even more connected to San Francisco and the gay community here.
The last scene (I stayed for) was to film the march after the Witchita rulings. For this we were supposed to be pissed. I had found a few people that I knew by now and joking around with each other made it difficult to be pissed off. I didnt expect to be a part of the film until I looked up and noticed more cameras on top of the Castro Theater sign. Who knows, I may see myself or people I know in this movie. How cool is that.
We did the scene about 5 times and before I could handle any more of the cold, I handed in my whistle and decided to grab food and a cocktail. I can hardly wait to watch the movie. This Friday will be another filming of a march. David and I will both participate in that. It should be more fun since he'll be there with me.
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edited: some of the people on stage
photos from Localcolorist on Flickr
Emile Hirsh, Diego Luna, and Gus Van Zandt
Gus Van Sant
Rob Epstein (director of Times of Harvey Milk)
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January 20, 2008
Beach Blanket Babylon
Dinner was great, and a good thing we both like garlic. I had the Lamb Shank and David had the Pork Chops. We had the swiss fondu for an appetizer, and a glass of wine each. It was delightful and the waitress was wonderful.
We finished around 4:45 and headed to Beach Blanket Babylon Boulevard where we stood in line behind about 5 people. 2 guys and a girl behind us (the guys were family) and we all had a good time waiting till the doors opened at 5:30. The straights in front of us seemed to start growing while we waited. Apparently a girl with about 40 tickets in her hand was waiting for many others to show up. Thankfully they were on top in the balcony.
At 5:30, we went in. My goal was to get the table that was shown in Tales of the City where Mona and Mrs Madrigal went to see the show. As luck had it we did. The two guys that were behind us in line sat next to us and David and I got a bottle of wine. I stole the bottle (since David wanted a keep sake) and the show was amazing.
I dont believe I stopped laughing for more than a minute and they covered everything from Hilary 2008, to Nancy Pelosi. Britney Spears, Paris Hilton, Lil Richard, and my favorite were the poodles. The poodles made me think of several pups I know. David gave me a big glare and quietly said "dont". Guess no barking for me *chuckle*.
The biggest thing I cant believe is that Ive been here almost 4 years and havent seen this show yet. Either way, Im really glad that our night worked out so well and I couldnt think of someone Id rather spend such a great evening with than David.
We came home after instead of going out for a drink. We started watching Bam Bam and Celeste (Margeret Cho movie). I fell asleep as David continued to watch it. When it was over, I woke up and David turned to let me know it was the worst movie ever. I dont think Ill waste my time.
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January 04, 2008
Home & Powerless
Ugh....storms. Although I'm used to rain and expect it, I think this is the first major power outage I've seen since moving here. I'd just go for a drink but I'm supposed to patrol tonight which once again they are waiting till the last minute to cancel. So I have to be here till 6pm, in the dark, and sober. UGH
sadness is coming home to find both your roommates sitting in their rooms in darkness and silence, just staring out ahead of them because theyve been sitting without power all day. One was just watching the rain through the sliding glass door in his room. The other sitting in darkness, staring at the walls. I was like "Awe, thats sad".
The other was after the power came back on. Im on the phone with David and the door bell rings. SFPD is there responding to a 911 call apparently made from a landline phone within our apartment. Funny is, we do not have a landline phone and Im the only one home at this time. I hope the lines werent crossed somewhere and someone who is desperately needing help isnt receiving it because of such.
Man, its a whacky day
Update: Power came back about 5:30, and patrol was cancelled. I built a fire and watch Ugly Betty Season 1.
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November 14, 2007
New (or not so new location)
Some of you may know and others may not, that I am currently posting on my livejournal blog. The reason I started it was due to many friends who's blog I read, they just happen to be on LJ. I set up the LJ account about a year ago nearly and have just found it to be much easier to post to on the fly. I can post to my blog via email which means I can be on the train, walking on the street, or even in the bathroom and post (yeah I know its hot or gross depending which friends read it).
Anyway, for those who do check back here on occasion, and want to really be able to keep up with where I am at, you can find my postings on LiveJournal.
Ill still post duplicates on here but the period between may just get fewer and fewer compared to the other.
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September 07, 2007
Could I be any gayer?
| Wood type: tulip Length: 11� inches Core: Gryffon Feather |
Tulip:
Tulip is a very feminine wood, and often chooses females or those with a natural caring nature, often considered to have a natural motherly personality. Tulip wands are excellent for shield and protection charms, as well as comforting magic.
Phoenix Feather:
The Phoenix Feather comes from the tail feathers of a Phoenix, and is especially good with fire or defensive magic, as well as healing magic. This may be due largely to the healing properties Phoenixes have.
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August 24, 2007
Caption Contest: poultry vs. robot in a duel to the death
From Engadget - I couldnt help but chuckle
We're told this type of battle is indeed legal in certain corners of the universe, but we honestly never thought we'd see the day when a gallinaceous bird came to the human's side to fend off the impending robotic takeover.
Ryan: "That sound? Seth Green and Adult Swim filing suit over the Robot Chicken trademark."
Thomas: "Quit your cock blocking and fight!"
Darren: "These wooden posts are such lame excuses for adequate prostheses."
Paul: "Look, I know you're scared. We're all scared. But if robots and robo-chickens can't learn to live in harmony, we might as well just let the humans have the earth all to themselves."
Evan: "Not surprisingly, the martial arts sequel to Howard the Duck tanked at the box office."
Don: "2019: Despite repeated protests from People for the Ethical Treatment of Robots, the title bout between Robo Chicken and BD "Boxy Hands" 209 went on as planned."
Josh: "I love you!" -- "It'll never work!"
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July 18, 2007
Id like to go sometime
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July 14, 2007
iPhone
So I've seen people who have one and have seen the demonstrations. Although I agree that its great, there are some features that I was anticipating to be included, that were left out. After all my talk about wanting one (which still could happen), there were a couple of possible deal breakers.
First and foremost is the ability to copy and paste. I realized how much I need that to be a feature of my phone. I use this when copying parts of emails, SMS, or even from a Word document on my Treo. Who wants to rewrite everything.
The second thing is the Bluetooth. With BT 2.0 I thought it would have the ADCP coding which allows for music to be transmitted in stero to a BT headset or headphones. This isn't an option.
The biggest conclusion I'm finding when I talk tp people that have them, comes down to this. Many who upgraded from a non smartphone, really like it because of all the features they didn't have. Those who have upgraded from a smartphone are the ones who aren't as satisfied as they thought they would be (not saying they aren't happy, just that it lacks the perfection they had hoped for).
Here's my stand. I don't want to switch from Sprint because I've always had luck in finding a signal. I think the Treo 755p is a good upgrade for now and if Apple puts those features in the iphone I have no problem upgrading later. The thing is the Treo is $579 and you get $280 back in rebates. I don't want to wait. I also don't want to sign a new contract with Sprint for 2 years.
We shall see what happens around mid August when I'm ready to upgrade.
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June 29, 2007
blond
So for almost 2 months now I've gone up the elevator and down the elevator wondering what was on V and wondering how you got there since there aren't any buttons for it.
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YAY
Yesterday I spent about an hour on the phone with my good friend Dennis in NY. He's coming to visit for Dore Alley Fair. Last I saw him was a year ago for IML and the last I talked to him, he was pretty burnt out with the leather scene, men, laying the game, etc...
Things have changed and apparently he is dating a guy from Ottawa and they will both be out and staying with me.
Dennis was one of the first real friends that I met who was comfortaable with his kinky side, and the leather scene. He was one of the first that I got to know in *that* light and respected even when I wasn't yet comfortable with my own stuff (at least not on a ublic level). Its going to be a great time.
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June 21, 2007
I need propecia like I need a hole in the head
So I finally went back to my old doctor. Because of insurance changes, I couldnt go back until now and was forced to have Kaiser (some will fight saying its not so bad but its like saying a small bruise isnt as bad as a big bruise). Still I forgot how much I appreciated going to a doctor who is gay and understands the leather scene.
I forgot what I said to get on this roll of talk with my doctor but he was ready to cut into my head (yes with a scalpel and no anesthetic HOT!), and he mentioned that he knew a gay couple who got into cutting each other. I admitted that when it comes to those things I can take a little pain but when it gets to be too much, Im under the table like a puppy. This turned into a talk about puppy play and how someone he knows is only referred to as puppy (I think we may know the same person or people). Either way, I missed that kind of relationship with my doctor.
The reason I went in was because I wanted him to check my cyst again. Recently its gotten bigger and my hair has receded enough to where it is somewhat visible. I expected him to refer me to a dermatologist like he did last time since doctors dont like to remove cysts above the neck, but he immediately told me to turn around so my head and feet were reversed on the bed. Without much conversation about it (ok, no conversation at all), he had the scalpel in his hand and was slicing through my head. Is it so wrong to find that hot? I felt the incision and took it like a man (or boy whichever mood Im in today but unsure lol).
After it was over and he was writing the prescription for the antibiotics (because apparently this is a dirty dirty procedure), he also wrote me a prescription to help quit smoking (Ace, it will still be a few months but Walgreens is holding the prescription). He also gave me a starter pack for propecia which I actually wanted to talk to him about.
As for the physical I wanted done, it didnt happen. When I asked him about it, his response was "youre 5'9, 162lbs, your blood pressure is good, your pulse is good, what else is there?". So needless to say, nothing routine about this office visit.
So here I am looking like a accident victim with bandages on my head and ordered not to shower for 24 hours (hot again I know-the people at work are going to love me tomorrow).
I need a cocktail! :)
Oh yeah, some guy was a prick from the first "hello" when I answered a call at work today. He sucks but I swallow. :)
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June 14, 2007
I made my first .gif icon :)
I started playing more with Fireworks and finally figured a use for it. I learned how to create .gif files. Who knows what madness can come out of it.
On another note, life has been great. Ive been with my new job for over a month now and it feels like Ive been there forever. The people I work with are everything I wanted, the job is exactly what I wanted, and the benefits are very much what I needed. It keeps me busy but I enjoy that. There are only 2 of us there from 6-8 and 3 of us till 9. By the time everyone else rolls in and gets settled, its time for lunch with only about 3 hours left. Before I know it 2 oclock has rolled around and Im strolling out the door.
The one thing I have found is that I now have an extra hour per day which has really thrown off my free time in a weird way. Being that my old job required an hour lunch so you worked 9 hour days, this one pays for 1/2 hour lunch and I work straight 8 hours. Ive found that with the extra hour a day, Ive been getting bored. Im sure Ill find something to do other than go to happy hour.
On another note, I met someone a few weeks ago and things have been going well. Im not sure where they will lead but Im enjoying getting to know David more. He's a great guy, we have a lot in common, and we seem to connect on several levels.
Ok, on to the gif
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April 27, 2007
Coincidence?
I crashed out from exhaustion last night and got a ton of sleep.
This morning I'm on-line and get a pvt from someone on gay.com who just happens to have the same name and nickname of one of my best friends from high school. I think about him often especially since Ive been working out. I remember him telling me back when we were about 19 that I had potential to be huge. This was when we were working out on occasion in his basement.
So definitely not too much of a coincidence however, he is also a bottom who wants to tie a guy up and use his cock for his own pleasure. How funny that I should enjoy being tied up and having my cock used rather than my bottom. Could be a nice match. :)
Its definitely worth looking into more and perhaps playing tomorrow.
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April 19, 2007
Cheers!
Yesterday = Great Day
I got the call as I was walking out of the office. I debated answering it
because I was still in the building but I decided to answer it and make a
b line to the door. It was the offer for the new job and they want me.
They like me, they really like me....
So after discussing some details with them, as it turns out, Ill be making
a little more money, the benefits are awesome in comparison to what I have
now, the hours are exactly what I like (6am-2pm), and I dont have to wear
a dress shirt and slacks to work. Above all I really think Ill be happier.
Who could ask for anything more.
I hit the gym and started the new exercise program that one of the
athletic trainers here at my current job set up for me earlier this week.
Its funny but there was no mention of chest, so I emailed her on that.
Also, she has me doing one day a week for arms, core, and back. The fourth
day is balance and kind of a free day.
Yesterday was my first day using the free weights, doing her program,
along the dip rack which I already have been using. After the workout, I
felt my muscles twitching uncontrollably when I held my phone in my hand.
That hasnt happened since I first started at the gym over a year ago. So
to sum it up, I spent less time at the gym but worked more. Fantastic and
Im excited to see where the rest of it takes me.
On the way home, I ran into Kenji on Muni. I always enjoy seeing him
although he doesnt always spot me. I walked up and stared at the side of
his face, everything but lick him (which I was close enough to do), and
watched as he walked away not noticing. I followed like the puppy I am and
did the same exact thing and finally a reaction. :)
So pleasant day, pleasant night, and I got a lot of sleep. How nice!
On another note, Tuesday night I grabbed a bite to eat with John at Bagdad
Cafe. It was the first time Ive had in a while to catch up with him in a
few weeks and it was nice to spend some time doing that. He's been
traveling a lot and Ive been doing the speed dating thing. So we ate and
then I forced him to watch Chicago. He originally said I would have to
tie him up to watch it but as fate would have it, it wasnt necessary.
We are in the video store, didnt see any new releases we wanted to watch,
so we headed to the older movie section. I made the comment "well we
could always watch Chicago". He replied with "if you can put it in my
hand in 5 minutes, we will watch it". I had it in his hand in less than 5
seconds which brings me to my next topic.
Changing names.... Ive been champ for about a year now and recently a
name came into the picture that would make a great pup name as well as a
business name for my photography if it ever happens. Flash! I walk fast,
I love photography, and it could also apply to how I "work it" at a bar.
Im just curious to any thoughts on changing names? I love champ and it
was given to me by someone I love dearly but what is the correct protocol
for name changes.
Ok, off to start my day at work. Its much nicer today, knowing I have a
new job on the horizon.
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April 17, 2007
A New Job?
No, not as Aquaman although I am REALLY excited my suit came today. I cant wait to get some pictures and have superhero sex. WOOF!
I had a two hour face to face interview with 4 people from a place I applied for. This lasted about 2 hours and after 2 phone interviews, I think its looking good. I hope the money is there too. I didnt want to ask until they offered me the job.
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April 16, 2007
Give em the ole Razzle Dazzle
For those who just adore torture, heres another clip from karaoke. Just give em the ole razzle dazzle.
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Training
One good thing about working in a chiropractic and physical therapy group is access to a great gym and an athletic trainer. Ive been going to the gym for over a year now and hit a point where I dont really see myself going further. Today I discovered what I can do. I spent about 45 minutes with one of the athletic trainers here going over an exercise program which should get me to where Id like to be. We shall see what happens in about 3 weeks to a month. I should see some improvement by then.
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Public Humiliation
So this is why I dont sing for those of you who wish to hear me doing really bad karaoke. Be warned and proceed with caution.
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April 13, 2007
A Sign Of The Times
Whats up with weird signs.... I see an advertisement in 24 hour fitness for Wendys. I dont care how much better they are then the rest of the fast food places, they are still fast food.
Im on my way home and see a homeless guy with a sign. "Future porn star fund". First time Ive seen that one.
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April 11, 2007
Texting
Ok so my pet peeve of the day are people who use text messaging as an instant messenger. Folks, although I do enjoy texting just as much as the next person, and do agree its a great way to say a few quick things like "are you going out", "do you want to grab a bite to eat", "how are you?" or even just a quick hi but i can also be annoying when its a dragged out conversation with your phone glued to your hands. At least with a phone call I can use my headset and walk around doing other things while talking. With texting, Im usually in the middle of doing some work online, researching things, or many other things that I do.
So as much as I love getting text messages, theres a line between a text and a chat. Please feel free to send a quick message for something that doesnt require a phone call, but if it goes more than 5 texts, its usually time to call.
Ok, my quick moment of ranting....Phew, Im done
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When It Rains People Get Stupid
Ok, whats up with people when it rains?
I remember winters in Rochester and as soon as the first snow falls, people would act as if they never saw snow in their lives. People would get into accidents going 10 mph, and slide into ditches. Here in SF, it seems people cant walk, or do two things at once when it rains. Focus people focus! Heaven forbid we give these people a stick of gum.
So Elizabeth said I should blog this. I mentioned this morning that I have never really been in short supply with men. I feel very fortunate. I also feel like a slut.
Im not sure why she found that funny. Perhaps the delivery that cant be transcribed into text.
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April 10, 2007
The Hole In The Wall/The Eagle
Many of you sent me emails and posted in your lj, the article about The Hole In The Wall and The Eagle being in danger. My first reaction when I see that type of article, is to delete it or bypass it. One of the reasons I do that is because I know that just because its in print doesnt make it unbiased or truthful.
Now present with both sides, I have to say, Im not convinced the the original story was accurate or truthful. Here is the rebuttal I read.
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April 09, 2007
Boy meets boy meets boy....
Sunday February 25th, 2007-Boy meets boy at beer bust. They dont talk but suck face for about an hour. They set a date to go out.
Saturday March 3rd, 2007- Boy meets boy before their date. Boy realizes he had beer goggles on. Boy isnt attracted to boy. Boy researches the movies, which one is shortest, which one starts the soonest. The other boy cancels date and boy is happy.
Sunday April 8th, 2007-Boy meets boy. Boy admits he has had a crush on boy. Other boy has had a crush on boy. Boy wishes he could escape his relationship. Other boy knows that feeling.
Monday April 9th, 2007-Boy finds out that other boys boyfriend is boy number 1 from February 25th, and they have been together for about 5 months.
Boy realizes he's poly, do they? I live a soap opera but not because I choose to.
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April 04, 2007
Sometimes its nice being gay
A woman calls the doctors office yesterday morning. She needs to have an STD and pregnancy test done. She certainly had safe sex on Saturday but what she didnt realize was that the condom was up inside her and there for 3 days (eeew or hot? youre choice). It just made me think, if it was a gay man, that would never happen. It would definitely come out on its own quickly. :)
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March 17, 2007
What Kind Of Gay Guy Am I?
You scored as The all-round cute gay guy. YOu are a cute guy who many would die to be with..........lucky!!
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February 28, 2007
9 Movies I want to see this summer
Harry Potter & The Order of the Phoenix
Spiderman 3
Underdog
Fantastic 4
The SImpsons Movie
Sin City 2
Shrek The Third
Transformers
Resident Evil: Extinction
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February 26, 2007
Have No Fear
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February 18, 2007
Pup Demo, Ikea, Ace, Throbbin, CJRough, and more
So to catch up on my weekend so far, Friday at work they announced that the measely 1 week vacation and 3 sick days they give us, would now become 8 sick days and no vacation to appease the law that went into effect on 2/5/07. I wasnt happy about it and decided to speak up. Good thing retaliation is against the law lol.
They figure since they already allow us to use sick time as vacation (PTO), and the law does say that if they offer comparable sick leave, then they dont have to give any additional days. Im not so much complaining that I didnt get additional sick time as I am the fact I feel as if I dont get vacation time now.
I also had told them that the benefits they have arent comparable to most places and for a doctors office, its kind of sad that there isnt more sick time. I mean, we see sick people all the time and are more apt to get sick than any other type of office. Ive had 2 colds in the 5 months Ive been there and I dont usually get sick all that often.
Im sure they werent happy with me speaking out but someone has to be the voice. I believe I did it in a tactful way by letting them know that I do understand above everything its a business, they are there to make (and save) money, and I can understand their decision from a business perspective which is also why I can understand the other side since I am on the other side. Needless to say, I also told them Ill probably be looking for another job.
Friday night was Alternations dance party at 525 Harrison. The K9 Unit here in SF was asked a few months ago to do a demo and there turned out to 3 Handlers and 4 pups participating. For those who know me, I always enjoy being on stage and being on display. John acted as my handler, and Daddy Richard MC'd. The other pups were sukk, taz, and spike. Duke acted as handler for taz and MasterDS of course would be sukks.
I dont remember a lot being in pup space but hear from others that I did great on stage. I remember bits and pieces and mostly remember hearing "champ" yelled out from the audience. I remember seeing flash bulbs from cameras going off too. Mostly I enjoyed playing tug-o-war, fetch, sukk eating cake from his bowl, and the dog bowl of beer at the end. I do remember John throwing a towel over my head which I deparately tried to get off but couldnt. Overall it was a great turn out.
Saturday John was nice enough to take me to Target and Ikea and Josh met us there. I bought a microwave, sofa, rug, small bakers rack, coffee table, and dresser to replace the stuff Steve took while he's moving out.
Last night I then met up with Mark, and Clayfor dinner. John also joined us. Clay is in town visiting from Calgary so Mark had taken him all over the city during the day site seeing. We went to China town for dinner and ate at the Empress of China. It was my first time eating there and have to say, I can see why it really is a nice place to eat. The wait staff was great, the food was great, and the view of the city from the 6th floor was amazing. I wasnt expecting to spend $40 on dinner (I was mostly thinking we were going for "something to eat"), but definitely happy with the outcome. I really enjoyed hanging out with Mark, John, and getting to know Clay
So today... On to beer bust later. YAY!
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February 13, 2007
A Balanced Day
"Excuse me" can be polite yet it can also be rude in many ways. It amazes me how the english language can have so many flaws depending on translation.
A woman older woman, perhaps homeless, walks across the street and to get passed me, says "excuse me". I realized that I was standing in the slope that would allow her to easily roll the cart up to the sidewalk without having to pull it over the curb. The question is, I'm not sure how she meant it.
On another note, I'm in line waiting to pay for my pizza, and the girl in front of me is on her cell phone while paying for her food. She is having a conversation, not paying attention to anyone else, and while distracted by the call, she is tring to put her stuff away. This was obviously rude so I said something. She didn't acknowledge anything because her conversation was far more important than listening or paying for her purchase.
So I got home from work tonight to find two packages at the door. The first was my knee pads which were estimated to arrive on Thursday. I was worried they wouldnt be here in time for the Friday night pup demo and was very happy to see them here.
The other was the Asus WL-167g WiFi adapter for my mac mini. For those of you who dont know the story, when I bought the mini, you had an option for bluetooth and an option for WiFi and each was a separate option. I was living at my old apartment on Market and the cable modem was in my bedroom so I figured who needs the WiFi.
Needless to say, we moved, we have an extra long eithernet cord going from upstairs to downstairs where my computer is and when I consulted Apple about having WiFi put in, I was told that since they no longer have a separate option for WiFi, I would have to buy the Bluetooth with the WiFi at the full price. Thats just outrageous.
So Ive searched for dongles before to take care of this and havent found anything that would work until last week Josh mentioned he was using a USB dongle for his mac (he's had trouble for a long time with his airport). I got the model number and ordered it over the weekend. I just got the email this morning that it was shipped. WOW! Talk about fast service and it was by far the lowest price I found online (including free shipping).
So this made my evening. Now if I can only figure out how to get the wireless to work with the dongle. I had to download the installer from Asus website and that installed fine. I just think its the settings on my mini that need to be changed. Ill eventually figure it out and life will be great.
YAY for me!
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February 08, 2007
I Get A Night Off
Last night didn't have any unwind time. I got done work, ran home to change, and
was out the door to meet throbbin, and his boy leathertigger. We
went to the leathermens discussion group, which I wanted to get a feel for how the
discussion was set up. I also knew several of my favorite people would be there.
I got to see sukk, pigpupsf, Daddy Richard, and spunky which Daddy
Richard lead the discussion on scat play. Although I'm not necessarily into that
scene, it was enjoyable to listen to.
After the discussion, we all headed home. Sleep for me.
I'm looking forward to having a night off tonight and relaxing at home finally.
I've been craving Buffy so perhaps that will make my night. Anyone wanna come over?
Woof
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Wow, things have been busy for me this week. Elizabeth has been out since Monday and work has been jumping. The weekend was good. We started the interview process and meeting potential roommates. Sunday we met with 4 and last night met with 2. Its really been difficult since Josh and I are so different in personalities and the "type" of person we would both want and Im getting a bit discouraged that we wont find *that* person until we've already screwed ourselves for March 1st.
Apparently he seems to think we dont need to put a deadline on making a choice but unfortunately I know we do. February is a short month and we have 3 weeks to find someone, which gives us a week roughly. If we wait any longer than that, the one person we may decide on could have found someplace and then we would be either a) forced to live with someone we didnt really want, or b) forced to split March's rent which Im not ready to do.
It also seems like the people I connect with, may both Josh and perhaps jealousy may be the reason that he doesnt want them there. I hadnt really thought of that possibility but it could be. I connected with one guy last night, who really seemed to want to live with us, but for some odd reason, Josh had trouble with him. Apparently he wants someone who will be more of our tenant than our roommate.
So on to other living situations. We still need a couch, end tables, and a dresser so if anyone knows anyone getting rid of them cheap, let me know.
Last night I went to dinner with Daddy Tony who invited several kink pigs for a dinner discussion for the Stop AIDS project. There we talked about the S&M community, leather scenes, kink, and how to get the message out where in recent times it seems to be failing. We actually came up with some good stuff and had a really great conversation.
Tonight Im heading out with throbbin and his boy leathertigger who is in town briefly from Ottawa. Im pretty anxious to meet his boy although Im pretty well beat from being on the go the past 3 days. Im also looking forward to going to the Leathermens Discussion Group, if only to get an idea of how the discussions are organized in hopes of organizing one myself one day.
This weekend should be busy as well. Friday is pup patrol (Castro Community On Patrol being patrolled by chainedpup, throbbin, and me. Saturday my friend Craig is in town from Atlanta on business and I will be having lunch and meeting his new boyfriend. In between there will be more roommates to talk to and hopefully come to a decision (have you guessed I really want this over with?)
Two final things. I started planning my trip back home. I leave for Rochester May 18th and stay till the 23rd. Ill leave out of Buffalo on the 23rd and head to Chicago until the 28th. Now Im waiting for Southwest to extend their booking times to May 28th before I purchase that one way ticket from Chicago to San Francisco.
I also had a job interview today which Im hoping pans out. Ill know by the end of the week if I will have a second interview or not. Keep your fingers crossed because it sounds like a great opportunity.
So thats current, to date, and all thats going on.
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February 04, 2007
Map It
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February 02, 2007
11's again
1/31/07 (3+1+0+7) Josh and I came to a resolution on the apartment.
Today is 2+2+0+7, and I just got a job interview.
I know I may be stretching with all this but there seems to be some truth to it all. My interview will be on 2/7/07 (cant make much of that though) but perhaps 2/9/07 will be a good day hehe...
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February 01, 2007
anxious
So Im at work yesterday, arguing with an insurance company (as usual) and talking about a patient who was seen for anxiety. I was looking at the info and realized they also had hemorrhoids. I giggled and Elizabeth asked why.
After I told her, she says "well no wonder theyre anxious. When their hemorrhoids go away they are no longer anxious.". This made me giggle even more.
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January 31, 2007
11 days and 11 times
For the longest time, I would look at a clock, receive change back, and it was always on the 11. 7:11, 9:11, 5:11, $2.11. When I packed up and sold off everything and gave up my life in Rochester, NY to move to San Francisco, my flight number was even 11.
For a while after moving here it stopped. Last summer, when Josh and I finally ended our relationship, it was on July 4th, which was exactly 10 years after I broke up with my first boyfriend (my only other long term relationship). This got me thinkig about the 11's again (7+4=11).
Perhaps 11's mean change in my life. Not just little changes but bigger, more substantial changes. With everything going on in my life, and with hope that resolutions will be made today, I realized today is an 11 day. Today is the 31st day of 07 (3+1+0+7=11). Maybe something good will happen. Im hoping.
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January 27, 2007
Around the world in about 6 or so years
The other night I was in the San Francisco chat room, chatting with some regulars, and I saw a screen name pop into the room. I looked and it was a name I recognized. I investigated, and sure enough it was someone I knew from Rochester, had met in the Rochester chat room, and hung out with a few times, about 6 or 7 years ago.
I had lost track of him about 4 or 5 years ago when he moved to NYC and apparently now he's hanging out in LA with a potential to move to SF. I was in absolute shock. Its funny how you can just run into someone after so many years on the other side of the country.
Remember when people used to think meeting people on the internet was dangerous? *chuckle* in my opinion its bringing people closer together.
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January 25, 2007
The Search Goes On
On my way to work yesterday morning, there was a strange guy walking down the street, obviously playing that old game "step on a crack and break your mama's back". He did well he missed *every* crack.
As for life, its been frustrating. Josh and I havent really come to any decisions but what we do know is that neither of us is going to move which means we need to find a roommate. I would love to have someone who is familiar with me and my personality (aka fetishes), but he doesnt want someone who is close to me since he doesnt want it to be a "2 on 1" type of living arrangement. I doubt anyone I know who would move in would make it that way but I can appreciate the feeling. That was one reason I didnt want his new boyfriend to move in (among other reasons). So what can I say?
We need to find a responsible person who is neutral and can afford their share of the rent each month, has a steady job, and will be comfortable with alternative lifestyles and alternative sexual interests.
The search goes on.
As for the job hunt, Ive updated my resume but still havent gotten any responses. Im getting burnt out with work already and I know its not what I need or should be doing. I need a vacation.
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January 12, 2007
I Have To Admit, Its Fitting!
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January 08, 2007
Waking Up
In a drunken haze yesterday, I realized, that I have been pretty numb for a long time when it comes to feelings and emotions. Although I know I have a lot of great people around me who I do care about, I realized that Im just not ready yet to care in *that* kind of way. To be in a relationship more than friendship. I have some work to do ahead of me.
I also allowed myself to get sucked into a drama that Ive been trying hard lately to avoid. It was like a snowball effect. I made one comment, and then had to back it up without having the proper mindset to think about what I was saying. Things came out wrong, and I said things that shouldnt have been said. I dont think I hurt anyone but it did make me think about my life and what love could mean for me again some day. Just not in the present time.
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December 28, 2006
Changes for New Years - Leave me a message
After making work revisit my idea for rotating my schedule with the other girl I work with, I finally convinced them it was a good idea. Before I arrived there was one person (my lovely Elizabeth) who had to do all the work. Now that we have 2 people doing similar jobs (although I could NEVER do her job or would want to), we have two people to cover more hours in the day which means, we could each afford time before and after open hours of operation to have quiet time to actually make some uninterupted calls, pull charts, fax and mail copies of records, etc... Seems logical dont it?
So to keep things fair so one person isnt getting the crap shift, we are going to start Monday alternating on a weekly basis. Beginning January 2nd, Ill work that week from 7am to 4pm and Elizabeth will do the 9am to 6pm shift. The week after we will swicth and so on and so forth. This is much better than the way we've been doing it and both working MWF 9-6 and TuTh 7-4. My body couldnt decide in two months what it wanted to do for sleep so it shut down most nights at 10pm. Hopefully this change will help.
It will also help my gym schedule providing I can do two things. On the weeks I work 9am, I can be motivated to go in before work 2 days a week (although if I go after, it would be fine cause I wouldnt have to be back till 9am), and I can push myself to go on Saturday mornings. This will allow me to do MWF at 4pm SuTuTh early, SaMWF,SuTuTh... etc... Which would actually be giving me an extra day in there again instead of 3 days a week (if that recently). So Im excited for the change.
As for other new things I found, I realized AIM offers free local phone numbers with voicemail that shows up in your inbox. I set up my AIM mail account a while ago figuring it was free and I already had my screen name. I realized when looking for jobs that desmondsdoghouse.com may not be appropriate domain for some jobs I was looking at. With it came the same storage capacity as gmail (although Im sure thats changed by now) and I never looked further into it till today.
I signed up for the free local number and tried it out. You get a recorded message telling the caller theyve reached the mail box of 415-xxx-xxxx and to leave a message. You then receive an email with an mp3 attached which you can save to your hard drive. Funny thing is Ive been looking for a way to save my voice mails on my phone because some of them Id really love to email.
One of the biggest uses I can think of is if you have personal business cards that you constantly hand out, only to discover you didnt really want to give that person your number. This is a great way to screen the calls and you can always give them the other number after you figured out they arent a psycho.
Another use would be as a second option for people who dont really want to chat, they can leave you a message on that number and if you want to call them back you can. This saves *them* from actually having to talk on the phone. Think text messaging on this one.
Just one more quick thing and Im done. I walked into Walgreens today thinking maybe they had some Christmas candy on sale. Its all down and Valentines is up. Valentines in December? Ugh!!!!
Tonight Im going over to hang out with Throbbin. Finally some sanity (I think).
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GIR Fans and Prada
So for all those people who love GIR and use Yahoo widgets, I found this cute and useless widget. I enjoy it but then again I enjoy useless things.
As for other things, Elizabeth and I have been reading The Devil Wears Prada and after seeing the movie, Im not certain it depicts these characters in the same way as the movie. I get the urge to tell Andrea to stop whining and that a million girls would die for her job. I also feel myself talking in my head like Miranda at all those irritating people who annoy me.
This morning as Im walking to work, Im walking on the inside closest to the building because I need to turn right. A girl walking towards me is also walking on the inside. Knowing that I need the inside because of the turn, I stood my ground and thought "its mine, thats all" followed by an after thought of "Was there something confusing about this that you found challenging?". Damn it Miranda, get out of my head.
As for feeling better, sleep, water, and cold-eeze do the trick again. Im back to 100% whoop whoop..... (did I just say that?) ugh!
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December 27, 2006
Who wouldnt love GIR
Gir: [disguised as a dog] MEOW!
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[Zim's telescope is malfunctioning]
Zim: Gir! Come to the observatory!
[Gir's head pops out of ceiling]
Gir: Yeees?
Zim: What have you done to the telescope?
Gir: Nothin'...
Zim: You haven't touched it? Something is broken and it's not your fault?
Gir: I know, I'm scared too!
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Gir: I'm gonna roll around on the floor for a while. KAY?
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Zim: Why was there BACON IN THE SOAP?
GIR: I made it myself!
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Zim: Gir, do you want to wake up the entire planet?
Gir: [shouts] I do!
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Zim: Once I infect the human's meat supply with filth, the planet will be mine for the taking! GIR, ready the tractor beam!
GIR: DOOKIE!
Zim: Sometimes I'm scared to think of what goes on in that tiny robot brain of yours
GIR: [looks out at the cows in the field. In his mind, they turn into Weenies wearing tuxedoes and top-hats]
Dapper Weenies: [in GIR's mind] Dance with us, GIR! Dance with us into oblivion!
_________
And finally one of my favorites :)
GIR: Let's go to my room, pig!
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December 13, 2006
My Name Is Leo
So if anyone wanted to get to know me by my astrological sign, this here seems to be the best description of my personality (at least from my own inner perspective). To give a situation recently that has a bit of irony to it after reading this, I met a guy Sunday night. We talked at Daddys for a bit and discussed his ungayness by not liking Madonna. It was a fun little conversation of "I hate this", "I hate this", until he spurted out "Just as long as youre not a Leo". The Leo in me had to respond in a strong, playful, dominating, and attacking way. I simply said "Im a Leo but Ive been insulted by better". He walked away at that point.
So on with my characteristics......
Leo July 23rd - August 22nd.....
Leo has a great deal of self confidence but they also have a great fear of being ridiculed and made to feel disgraced. While Leo is very affectionate there is a tendency to have things their way and may rapidly lose interest if they are challenged too often for the leading role. They will have to learn to discipline themselves against their overall enthusiasm for living life to the fullest, which is to say, dangerously on the edge. The creative urge in Leos should never be stifled as to do so a good deal of potential will be wasted.
Leos are found as painters, actors, or sculptors; but not all Leos are in the public arts, no, rather they can be found in the throes of creation doing their projects on the kitchen table. They have an infectious vitality that lights up their lives like an inner sun and illuminates not only their lives, but the lives of those around them. Lack of fulfillment in life, professionally or personally, can destroy these bright and shinning people and cloud their personalities.Leos need control in their lives to be really satisfied so organization is absolutely essential to their peace of mind.
A leo should cultivate a flexible mind as they do not always 'know best'.
Only when this trait is cultivated can the characteristic Leonine warmth, generosity, and desire to really understand others be fully indulged.
The lions love and adore children as they bring out the inner child. Leos are surprisingly sensitive and easily hurt, but they do have a tendency to dominate and this should never be underestimated. It is always meant well as they only want to bring out the best in the people they care about, or work with. They also tend toward impatience and they should make curbing these traits a lifelong objective. Born leaders, they can take command of a situation in any emergency and see it through to its completion. The enthusiams they acquired in childhood will generally last a lifetime and may even dictate the career one would choose.
They can be too status conscious, causing themselves much anguish when, or if, they cannot keep up with others in their immediate circle. They can also be quite overbearing and vain when they feel they are being challenged. On the other hand, the lions make great lovers and parents, giving more to a relationship than most of the other signs. They are good honorable persons and good providers.
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November 20, 2006
Save The Cheerleader
So Heroes just ended. The suspense is driving me crazy. Its been a long time since Ive watched a TV show that leaves me wanting more as soon as it ends.
For those who watched it tonight, Id love to hear your opinions and for those who havent but will, its gonna be good.
Hiro never returned: My guess is he want back too far in the past before he had his power. Thats why he couldnt return.
Its apparent now what Peters power is as well as that one girl who seems to be hanging around everyone.
Is DL Dead? Did Jessica kill him? hmmmmm
The question remains, who is Syler? Did they, and could they erase his memory? Whats to become of him now?
Im anxious to see what happens next week.
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November 16, 2006
Edward Gorey
And I thought for sure Id be D is for Desmond thrown out of a sleigh!
What horrible Edward Gorey Death will you die?
You will be sucked dry by a leech. I'd stay away from swimming holes, and stick to good old cement. Even if it does hurt like hell when your toe scrapes the bottom.
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November 15, 2006
Great Unexpectations
So I asked Elizabeth today, “Am I what you were expecting when they hired me?”. There was a short pause followed by a chuckle.
“Well the only expectation that I had was that you were black”.
Apparently, there was a black man standing out in the hall the same day they announced the hired me. He appeared to be getting a tour so when they said they hired Desmond, she immediately thought it was me.
Although Im happy to be who I am, Im really sorry for disappointing Elizabeth.
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November 13, 2006
I drink therefore I am
Friday evening I got a call from my friend Marc who was here last month on a layover with the airlines. He is back in town for the weekend. For those who don’t know Marc, he is originally from Rochester, NY, now lives in Phoenix, and we have known each other for about 10 years now. He’s a great friend whom I have a lot of history with as friends.
So anyway, I met up with him and his friend Rick who is also from Rochester but now lives here. They were at Moby Dicks and we hung out there pretty much all night. Jason met up with us finally and after they left around 1am, Jason and I continued on for a couple more drinks at Daddys and Midnight Sun.
Saturday was a stay at home day and I began rearranging my room, as well as cleaning my desk. It was long overdue and for some reason, once I got the energy to start, it just continued on for the rest of the day. I started a project of scanning all my printed photos so I can create a hard copy backup and put these away for good. I also re-watched all episodes of Heroes (well listened while I worked) and pretty much came up with several thoughts on the show.
I especially wondered about the 3rd episode as to whether Claires father is good or bad and determined he a) kidnapped and drugged the cop and had his memory erased, and b) tried to kidnap the congressman. Hmmmm…. Good or bad? I wonder.
Saturday night I met up with Stephen and we went out for a bit. We later met up with Marc and Rick again and went to see the drag show at Harvey’s. Marc reminded me of the many nights watching the shows in Rochester. They did seem much better but the drag here is very different from the shows back home. After a few other bars, they left and Stephen and I did too.
Sunday I had to push myself to go to the gym. Since I started the new job its been tough to find the time to go. I get done early on Tuesdays and Thursdays so those seem to be the only days I can go and if something new comes up (as it has seemed to), I end up going once during the week. I haven’t had the energy to go on the weekends since we switched from daylight savings time so Im trying to get back in the habit of going 3 times a week.
Sunday afternoon was the photo shoot. I wasn’t sure what to expect but as it turned out they wanted me and another guy in our jocks with temporary tattoos on our butts. The photo shoot lasted about ½ hour and then it was beer bust time. It was the second half of the SOMA Bare Chest Calendar Men auction and its always a good time. I left around 6 as I usually do and headed home for sleep.
Today was a bit rough but the day is almost done and I will go home to continue my scanning project as well as converting VHS to DVD. Hopefully the rest of my bar came so I can get that put together finally. We shall see what fate has in store.
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November 10, 2006
The Impossible
As most people know, Im the type who lives paycheck to paycheck. My bills are paid but I spend what little I have left over.
Yesterday I woke up, checked my bank account (as I do religiously), only to discover that the bank processed a check written for $801.90 as $1229.00. This left my account overdrawn and me without funds.
This also left me without food or finances and when I called the WORST customer service ever (US Bank), and going through person after person trying to get this corrected, only to end up with the WORST manager Ive ever encountered (US Bank), who tells me it could be up to two business days (being Thursday, two business days could be Monday), before they research it and correct it. It was unacceptable.
Here is my letter of complaint. Needless to say after she said it was impossible to have it done any quicker (and verified with my local branch manager), I did have this resolved this morning, thanks to finally an intelligent Branch Operations Manager there. It was done within 24 hours.Dear US Bank,
Attached is a proof of an error that US Bank has made which has caused my
account to be overdrawn. I understand that mistakes do happen, however in
my situation, I am now without money to carry on my normal daily routine
which does include eating and survival.
When I contacted your call center, they did issue a request for an
adjustment however I was informed that this would take 2 business days.
This is unacceptable since this would require me to go without food for 4
days (being today is Thursday and 2 business days would put this at
Monday).
Along with my request to have this rectified today, I went through a
filter of very poor Customer Service representatives including a
supervisor named Trudy who I will say is the worst Customer Service
Supervisor I have ever spoken with.
I have been in Customer Service myself for over 10 years, and with my
experience, I have also known that although the Customer isn’t always
right, when a mistake is evident such as the situation below, there is
always exceptions to the procedures we follow to go above and beyond to
take care of them. With this, I realize my account hasn’t always been
exceptional, but I do feel in this situation, it is an obvious error on
your banks part and I would have expected more curtousy and accountability
for the banks error. I would have also expected a bit more sympathy about
the situation.
Instead what I received were condescending remarks, refusal to give me
information about filing a formal complaint with the FTC, as well as who
Trudy reports to in order to file a complaint about her demeanor on the
phone. Eventually I was able to get both the mailing address to US Bank
for complaints as well as the email address to send it. I have still yet
to complain about her to the person who she reports to which she stated
was her “local branch”. I asked several times who she reports to and
several times I received an answer of “no one”. After continuing my
asking, she did mention she reports to “my local branch”.
Further more, she stated there is “no one at this call center” who is
above her and continued to compare me with John Doe down the street since
they get many calls a day about these kinds of errors.
Along with several other questions I asked, such as the operations
managers name and the address to the FTC (which I had to research to find
out which government agency banks report to) for complaints, I received
the response “I don’t have that information”.
She continued to imply that it was my fault that this happened and would
not offer any assistance in rectifying the problem. She was however
willing to wait on the phone with me for an hour and a half for my branch
to open so we could conference them in on the call. To me that’s a waste
of US Banks time and money as well as my own.
What I would like is simple. I would like the address to file a complaint
with the FTC and/or any other organization that regulates how a United
States bank operates, as well as this matter taken care of today as it is
obvious that this is an error and does not require much research. I would
also like to have a formal complaint made on Trudy (who is not required
for security reasons to give me her last name).
Im not happy about the situation as I have no fund now to live on for
possibly 4 days and 1 day would be difficult without food.
Sincerely,
So after spending the day fighting to get this resolved, it all worked out in the end but after this, I can not, and will not recommend US Bank to anyone nor will I continue my account with them. I did send a letter to the CEO as well to complain.
On a better note, Stephen was around who definitely brightened my day. That evening I was in a mood just to be home by myself, feeling exhausted from the fight, and he convinced me to let him buy me dinner. I met him down at Castro and he bought me a rose which definitely put a smile on my face. We went to Asqew and had dinner and then came back to my place here. Relaxing, talking, sharing youtube videos, it definitely took my mind off things. He spent the night again which its been nice when he does. Its nice holding someone and being held which is something Ive missed for a long time. Its still a bit scary.
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November 06, 2006
Accents?
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November 04, 2006
I hate iTunes, I hate Apple, and I hate being a slave to them
So I dont really hate Apple or iTunes, however I do have to complain a bit about the way they are making it ridiculously tough for people to actually purchase movies and tv shows and watch it on an actual TV. I started watching Heros and its one of very few shows I watch. I missed the first two episodes, so I wanted to download it. When I went to the itunes store to purchase it, I saw that I could also purchase the whole season and it would automatically download as the episodes became available. What I didnt know was that you wouldnt be able to make it portable so you can watch it on an actual tv just like you can a DVD that you would buy.
So my question is, why would anyone purchase this, knowing that you can only watch it on a laptop and pay the same price as you would if you waited and actually purchased the season on DVD where you can take it over to a friends house and have a marathon. The only way for you to even watch it on your own tv is to buy iTV when it comes out. Yes Apple, thank you for figuring out ways to make me spend more money on more of your products, just to give me the freedom I should already have. And you wonder why people pirate software, movies, and music? Its because you've made it rediculously tough to make it portable.
So in conclusion, in your efforts for DRM (digital rights management for those who dont know), you have also made the desire stronger to just go to a file sharing program and just download what you want.
Cheers
PS: If anyone knows how to convert what Ive already bought to a DVD format, please let me know.
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November 01, 2006
This is why I avoided Halloween in Castro for 2 years
7 shot and 1 stabbed in Castro
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October 16, 2006
Taking Back The Castro
Before I start talking about the fun stuff, Id like to take a moment to talk about the meeting I just came from. Take Back The Castro is a community potrol that is being put in place by several people I know and respect in the community. The reason its being established is because of several sexual assalts and violent crimes that have been happening to people in my community. Happening to people I know. This has got to stop.
Tonight I listened to several people talk about how they were assalted both on the street and nearly in their homes. It was tough to listen to and as I could tell by the staggering voice, it was very tough for them to talk about openly in front of about 100 people.
Several people talked about defense and several people really got me thinking about my own life and the risks I take every day. After hearing recently about a friend of mine in Rochester, and how he was assalted just walking down the street, tonight really got me thinking about the steps I need to take to make my life safer. It also helped me realize how I can help make others safe as well.
I will be going out and getting both a flashlight and a whistle. I realized I walk home from the bar drunk many nights and walk up a dark staircase of 116 steps. On several ocassions there has been people, younger kids, hanging out at the top. Although nothing has ever been said to me, there is always the chance it could. You may think it wont happen to you until it actually has already happened and gone.
A topic that was also covered was how to be a good witness and help a victim be a good witness as well. The things you are taught to look at arent always the best things to remember. An example given was the shirt a person is wearing. Shirts are easily removed when someone is running. Things we should look for are things that cant change or are difficult to chance such as shoes, facial hair, scars, gender, height, and any type of incriminating marks. Another great thing to keep track of is the direction the person is going.
As for the victem, one man talked about his sexual assault. After the incident, he went home, threw away all his clothes, and showered and scrubbed every memory he could possibly have gotten rid of. This could destroy any evidence that could be used to find the criminal. It was all very interesting to listen to and Id like to dedicate some time to helping out where I can.
On a more fun note, I went miniture golfing yesterday with a large group of friends and made a few new ones along the way. We rode up to Fremont, about 15 of us all together, and took over the golf course as well as the Jack In The Box next door. The next outing will be laser tag. That should prove interesting as well.
Ok, Im off to watch Heros.
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October 14, 2006
Swan dive (hope they were straight)
No offense to the straight people I know and love. This pertains to the uncool ones who really have no purpose in life. Mind you there are annoying gay men too like the ones who whine and the ones who are cracked out of their minds. Either way, this is a rant about straight people (those other straight people)...
So Rick and I went shopping today. As always, I pointed out how annoying many straight people can be. Oblivious to everyone else around them, kissing and holding hands in public (what do they think this is the rest of America?), and pretty much thinking their lives mean something to the rest of the world. Ok, Im a bit bitter when it comes to these things.
Anyway, Rick and I were getting back on the muni and someone was running around another person to catch the train. She rain in the yellow section that is supposed to be the line to stand behind. They make people stand behind this line for a reason just in case you straight people havent heard of it. Its not just a pretty line they decided to paint.
With that said, I turned to Rick and said I know someone is going to eventually try running around someone who is completely oblivious to the world around them, and they are going to go flying onto the tracks. I wasnt being funny, I was being serious.
So to speed forward a bit, Im online and Rick sends me an instant message. It goes something like this.
5:38:22 PM rickolodeon: it's your fault, you know
5:38:30 PM desp1969: whats that?
5:38:39 PM rickolodeon: "Someone did a swan dive in front of the muni car I was riding on at church st station"
5:38:50 PM desp1969: OMG!
5:38:54 PM desp1969: youre kidding
5:38:58 PM rickolodeon: no
Apparently someone in the chat room had just mentioned this and I totally missed it.
So to get back to pet peeves on muni, one of my biggest one is when someone purposely puts their hand or foot in the door to stop it from closing so they can get on. This is completely rude and I just dont get how people dont see it. They are only concerned with themselves, and have no idea that by making sure they catch *that* train, they are holding up EVERYONE else on the train and the platform. Selfish and rude people suck and should write on the chalkboard 1000 times "I will not block the door from closing on MUNI ever again".
Ok, nuff venting. Im heading out for coffee, food, and then drinks (exactly in that order).
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October 13, 2006
The Root of it all
So the drinks part turned into a night of drinking. The flickr party was a bit lame so we soon ended up at the Eagle. After getting our groove on there, Stephen and I ended up at the Powerhouse and TJ headed home.
It was a fun night and Stephen eventually just came here and stayed the night. It was nice to actually have someone I'm attracted to sleeping next to me. He's a really great guy and I see so many common interests. I'm really not certain where it will lead but I will certainly let life play itself out.
This morning it was dentist time. I went in there and the were pretty prompt with everything. They had me in the room and the dentist started the root canal. I explained my finance situation as well as my dental insurance terming at the end of the month, so the dentist gave me 50 percent off my copay. Root canal is nearly done and then to work on getting a crown. That may be expensive if I can't get hime to do the work before the 1st.
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October 12, 2006
Painful Night, New Job in the City
So yesterday was one of the most (if not *the* most) painful day of my life. My tooth that has been an issue for some time (which I've ignored for some time) started acting up again. It kept me down on Saturday which I appreciated because I wasn't looking to go out but yesterday, I could barely keep from crying from the pain. I had been taking ibuprophin to try and keep the pain at bay, but even after chewing on about 15 it still wasn't helping any.
I finally broke down and called my dentist, who's office was closed on Wednesday. He was in the middle of driving and asked me to call back in a half hour so I did. He was nice enough to call in a prescription for Vicoden and I was soon at the pharmacy seeking relief. Finally about 10:30 it kicked in as I drifted off to sleep and had one of the best nights sleep I've had in years.
This morning I woke and today was the day I started at the actual office. I wasn't sure what I would be walking into but was soon greeted with open arms and with much excitement. People really seemed happy I was there.
I have to say, I really am happy to be working in this part of the city. Although Folsom & 1st isn't exactly the Park Ave of San Francisco, it does have its charm and a few more places to eat and get coffee. Its also nice to be among the people dressed in business attire.
So I walked around at lunch and became familiar with the area. I grabbed a quick burrito at a cheap mexican place and called my dentists office to schedule an emergency visit at 9:30am Friday.
I also have business cards which is new to me. The title reads Insurance Coordinator. Wow a title even. I realize its nothing more than a biller who talks to patients but still its nice to see in print.
I didn't get too much done with the exception of getting my email set up, getting internet access (not everyone has it so I feel special), and a bit more experience with reading the system.
Tonight I'm on my way to an SF Flickr party. I'm meeting my friend Stephen and his friend TJ and really not sure what to expect. As for most people who read this know, I've been completely overwhelmed by flickr. I post all my photos there and tell everyone else to do the same.
After this Ill probably need a drink. I haven't celebrated being back to civilization yet and really need a cocktail.
We will see......
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October 11, 2006
New Job
I started my new job this week and have been in Novato, CA for the past 3 days training. I arrived Monday morning to this little town which is about 45 minutes north of San Francisco in Marin County. Peoples responses when I mentioned I had to come here for training were "Im sorry", which led me to feel less than happy being here, before I even arrived.
My judgement at first was that its just like everyone had made me believe. I hate the country, I hate being away from civilization and feeling isolated from the real world that I call San Francisco. The people are all families with kids, and live in modern houses, and have yards, and swimming pools. There really isnt anything more than a shopping plaza with a drug store, and a Bells Market.
This is where Id be training. The home was set back from a side road and was absolutely gorgeous. I cant get over how big it was. 2 living rooms, a huge kitchen, a small little room on the side with a table and books, a pool out back with a tennis court. These folks obviously have some money.
It was a bit odd working there since the family was around part of the time and Im not used to working in an environment where I would have to deal with other family members. Regardless of that it felt good to be doing something I know.
I picked up quickly and they seemed impressed by how much I already know and am capable of. I hope the impression is real since I really feel comfortable doing the job. I really feel like it is something I can continue and will definitely be a good move for me from selling headsets. It should also prove useful in eventually starting my freelance photography business in 3 years.
They put me up at the Inn Marin and the hotel I have to say has been great. A gorgeous pool, hammocks in the shade, and a great restaurant which I really enjoyed. The only downfall is the wireless signal which is very faint in the room and if I move my laptop too far, it cuts out as quick as dawn to the person who overslept.
So despite the bugs, the breeders, the fancy cars, and the isolation, its been a pretty good stay here. I will be happy to get home.
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October 04, 2006
Sizes too small
So I ended up with 2 new shirts Saturday both being size small. What has become of a world where they now have to make sizes bigger to compliment the egos of a person who can't admit to themselves they are a bit over weight. Perhaps its the size 3 who wants to remain a size 2 and squeezes into the shirt, pants, dress and would rather look like the remains of dinner that you try to cram into the tupperwear bowl because you don't want to dirty a bigger one.
So here I am looking at myself, knowing I'm a size medium and having to buy a small. Being a size small is nice if you really are a small but I know my reality and its now distorted by clothing size. I really feel bad for men like Josh who are truly an extra small and already have trouble finding clothes that are small enough.
On another note, the 24 hour date that I was supposed to have with the guy from NYC was a bust. It lasted about 2 hours, we went to Castro Street Fair, and Embarcadero Center. I realized after a few hours, it just wasn't going to work. He didn't seem to be into being there which really made me feel like I wanted out.
I ended it by going home to take a nap with the notion we would try and get together later in the evening. I went to beer bust at The Eagle.
About 5pm he called. He had a friend who only had time to get together that evening so he was taking that option. Part of me was disappointed but the other part relieved that I didn't have to fill my obligation to an evening/night that was sure to make me feel trapped. My only real issue is that I took Monday off work for this but fate proved to work in funny ways.
I decided on a "do nothing day Monday" and did most of the day. I met up with Jason for a quick lunch at Slider and went home to take a nap.
The phone rang about 5 minutes after I laid down. After thinking all the people I knew who would be coming to town had come and gone, it was my Friend Marc (now in Phoenix but originally from Rochester) on the phone.
normally if its someone I talk to regularly, I would have pressed ignore and went on with my nap but knowing Marc never calls unless something is up, I answered.
He is in town on a layover with his airline. It was absolutely great getting to see him even if it was just briefly for a night of drinking. Its also nice to show close friends and family what my life is like now. We hung out for the afternoon and evening and finally he was off to his hotel room.
Tonight is my last pod outing with the crew at headsets. The "pod" are the small group of us that work togetheras a small team. We are going to some place that has beer tasting and food. I used to hate these things but grew to apreciate them and getting to know my coworkers better.
Mike took me to Starbucks this morning and expressed how much he would miss me here. It was touching because I really knew it was genuine.
Till tomorrow
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September 30, 2006
Shopping
So I turned in my resignation and really took a close look at the people around me. There really are a lot of people I'm going to miss there. It will be nice to be away from the call center experience but it really is a great bunch of people there.
With my resignation, I received a lot of sad coworkers and really realized just how much I'm going to be missed. Mike expressed his sorrow and everyone that I thought wouldn't care seem to care more than I imagined. I'm going to miss most people.
As you probably know, there has been benefits to working there. They have given many bonuses to buy clothes, shoes, dinner, etc... For my last week, and because the company had a successful week in meeting goals, I get to go out and spend up to $60 towards a new shirt. What make the irony is that I needed a new shirt for my new and upcoming job. Also as an added benefit, the new quarter starts Monday which means Ill get my free quarterly headset. A nice benefit before leaving.
So today I'm going shopping in the new Wesfield Shopping Center. The new mall opened Thursday and SF now has a Bloomingdales. Its nice inside but there is a almost unbearable amount of people. I see people going in but barely anyone coming out.
On a more social note, last night I went to a straight bar in the Tenderloin. For those who know me, straight bars scare me and to make it worse the Tenderloin scares me too. Double Whammy was my first thought, but when I got there I was greeted by people I knew, one of the friendliest and excellent bartenders I've met yet, and a scene that resembled the old Tara's. Coincidently enough it was called The Nitecap which in the older Tara days people would start there and end there.
Lisa, the bartender, made me one of the best alabama slammers I've had in years. She didn't just take care of her patrons in a drinking sense but encouraged people to drink water in between. She was very caring, fun, and a great bartender to be around.
So the reason I was there was that it was my friend Stephens birthday. I'm not sure how old he is but I can say he is hot. Everyone seemed to have a "gay" ole time and it was great to be somewhere new. Thanks Stephen for expanding my horizons and making what I thought would be a dump, a great time. Happy Birthday.
Ok enough blogging. Time to shop!
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September 07, 2006
Friends friends and more good friends
So the past week has been non stop for me. Jason had moved here, I had the contest Saturday, Sunday was Harrison Street Fair, Monday my good friend Stomper from Portland was in town, and last night my good friend Chris and his partner Doug from Rochester arrived.
It was really great seeing both of them and great to have Jason arrive here, I havent seen Stomper since my trip to IML. We had a dinner at Firewood and went to Powerhouse for a few drinks. It was nice meeting his partner who Ive only heard of till now.
I also met a really hot friend of theirs who apparently has a partner and moved out of the city recently. I learned about new fetishes and kinks one of which I think I may need to research a bit more. There are many people who fantasize about being turned into cyborgs. I never heard of it but it does kind of interest me.
Last night I went to dinner with Chris & Doug at Nirvana. I just realized I hadnt been there in a really long time. Ever since the host was rude and we decided to go somewhere else. The service seemed to be back to what I remember and the food still as good as before.
After Nirvana we headed to Daddys. I still cant call it by its "not so new" name 440 Castro. It was busy which was a bit unusual to find on a Wednesday night. It was great catching up with Chris and Doug about everything going on in Rochester, and it kind of made me want to visit more soon. Im just afraid of going in the winter when its cold. blah!
Also on the news front, Ive commited myself to sending in at least 1 resume a day in hopes of finding a new job that will have a little more advancement both in position and salary. I know I can find something and finally figured why not try. So we will see how that goes.
My GIR slippers arrived in the mail yesterday. YAY!!!! Who wouldnt want to have a giant GIR wrapped around their feet? They are fantastic! Thank you Luis for buying them for me. You are a sweet and great friend.
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September 04, 2006
Straight People in Castro
So the more and more straight people I see in Castro, the more and more I want them to leave. I understand they want a nice neighborhood to live in but let's look at reality. There is a reason a gay neighborhood is safer and nicer.
I got on Muni tonight and took a look around. I saw some shady people and some drunk people. I saw some decent, regular joes too. The people I saw who would make me a bit afraid were the younger, straight, drunk folks. I'm not saying some gay men aren't scary since I do know several in the leather community who are but I still have a certain safety I feel even when I see a stranger in leather I haven't met.
The drunk straight girls in Castro need to leave. The gay boys need to realize although they can drink, have fun, entertain, and in most cases hold their liquor, their straight, female, counter parts cannot.
Sure they love their gay friends, they are after all fag hags but have some tact girls. Drink moderately, get your energy from within rather than relying on the energy from the booze and your gay friend and please don't bring any straight boy along whom you've had to ensure several times that night "it will be fun". They won't fit in with the gay men so leave them at home and don't force them. It only leads to violence.
With all of this and a quest to have a peaceful place to live myself, I would love to see the straights have their own nice area to live that's affordable. Based on the info its hard to create a haven for straights unless you can pay the price. If you can there is always Pacific Heights.
On a completelye different note, I was walking down Castro and I walked by a cute guy who I heard say "ooooh Daddy". When did I become a Daddy? wow that made me feel old.
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August 29, 2006
My Civil Doodie
So a few quick things for my blog. Neglect! I know I know.....
First lets talk jury duty. Yes, I got called and yes I had to serve on a trial. Although work only paid for 75% of it, Im still glad I served.
To give you a quick overview of the trail (because I can now talk about it), You have a 78 year old man who has worked his whole life as an iron worker and pipe fitter. He started working at 15, smoked, and ended up with asbestosis (I know, not the most exciting trial).
The company he was suing was a contracting company for a site he worked at in Southern California. He didnt work for them however it was established they were a contracting company that would rip out the other sides of the pipes he was fitting and were around most of the time he was in Southern California. This was mostly during the 60s when there was no Osha and wasnt any federal regulations for asbestos.
I for one said they werent neglegent for his asbestosis but the rest of the jury (except for one woman) said they were. Their reasoning was that the defendent didnt present any evidence or witnesses. They didnt try and say they werent there. They just let the plaintiff make his case. For me lack of evidence doesnt mean they are guilty but for the rest of the jury, the company was there and they contributed 25% of his asbestosis to the defendent. They awarded him 2.5 million which the company would be liable for 25%. I hate lawsuits like this.
Of course the jury was cool and made up of lots of younger people. Several gay and lots of men. I had one who seemed pretty persistant about exchanging phone numbers. I avoided him like the plaque.
This weekend is the SF Leather Daddys boy contest. I promised spunky who is the current title holder I would run for the title. Im a bit nervous since I dont usually like letting the walls down and letting people truly see inside and theres a huge part of me thats afraid. Like all fears, the best way to conquer them is to face them and live it out. I plan on being one of those people who just has fun with it, win or lose. I know several who are entering who are probably much more deserving since they do so much more for the community.
On a final note its Tuesday, August 29th and my friend Jason from Rochester is moving here today. Im really excited to have another Rochester person moving to San Francisco. We will head out for drinks tonight and it will be great to catch up.
More to come
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August 27, 2006
Photos....
Most of my current photos are being being displayed on Flickr
I will try and update my photos page as soon as I get some time.
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June 05, 2006
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June 02, 2006
A few things off topic
First I found out my dad has to have heart surgery next week. Im not sure how to feel however there has been a huge sense of concern. It reminds me that he is getting older, I am getting older, and life sometimes passes by too quickly.
As for work, yesterday was my first day back. I found out they are offering a voluntary resignation package to all the employees. I emailed the Customer service manager to find out more and was approached by Mike (the CEO and big boss) to talk me out of leaving. It made me feel good that they didnt want me to take them up on it. I think Ill stay a bit longer with the company.
Last night we watched Tales of the City on Logo. It was my first time watching this old TV show and Ive heard so much about it. Its based in SF and I just got that sense of home watching it. Like it could be happening right around the corner. With referrences to The End Up, Upper Market, and back drops of the Trans America building, I got the sense it was really in SF. I have to say, I really enjoyed it.
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April 26, 2006
Treo 650
I dropped my treo 650 over the weekend and was amazed at how durable it really is. The battery case flew off as it hit the cement ground. I thought it was a goner but the only thing that came out of it was this little scratch on the bottom corner. I must say, I was amazed.
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April 21, 2006
hmmmmmm
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April 13, 2006
The Ups and Downs
Things have been busy and one of the things that tends to get cut is my blog time. With it, I always seem to be playing catch up with my life.
First, our stove. Our stove broke about a week ago and I called the landlord to fix it. Her brother (who always needs to be consulted) came over and fixed it before he left for vacation for a week. His method of fixing it, leaves our electric stove on high regardless of what you set it to.
So I called the landlord back only to find out she has misinterpreted the lease and seems to think these repairs should be up to the tenant.
The lease states:
"MAINTENANCE AND REPAIRS: Tenant shall, at Tenant's expense, at all times maintain the Premises, furnishings, and appliances, if any, in a clean and good condition and shall surrender the same upon termination of tenancy in the same condition as received (excepting normal wear and tear). Tenant understands that Tenant is responsible for the cost of repair of ALL damages in or about the Premises whether caused by Tenant's guests or invitees.
Somehow the landlord is looking for us to pay for the repair to the stove. So that is one struggle.
On another note I've been fighting with my bank for overdraft charges to my account. I tend to run short at times and last week I needed to pay a bill that was past due. Josh wrote me a check for the current bills and I was going to use that to pay Sprint.
To explain my set up, I live in Castro. In Castro there is US Bank (my bank), Citibank across the street (the bank the check was written from), and a Sprint store a few doors down from that (the bill that needed to be paid).
Now what I should have done was waited until after work, cashed the check at Citibank, and went to pay Sprint. All would have been fine.
Instead what I did (since I needed cash for the day anyway) was go to US Bank, withdraw $40 for the day, and on a separate transaction completely, I deposited the check and withdrew the money for the Sprint bill. I have a Sprint near work and figured I'd run down there at lunch, pay the bill, and not have to run around after work.
With this, US Bank held funds from the check (which mind you cleared that same day), but because they post the days end from highest to lowest, it made not only the money I withdrew for the bill overdrawn, but also the $40 I took out for the day (which would have cleared if it wasn't for their posting system).
So I'm upset at US Bank for allowing their ATMs to allow me to take out funds from an ATM deposit that would have been more than what was available (even though it truly was in there). I received 2 overdraft charges for that and when the automatic withdrawal for the gym came through, they paid that and slapped me with a 3rd overdraft fee.
On a more positive note, I’ve been working out. I lost 5 pounds and believe I’ve dropped a size in pants since they are now hanging a bit lower on me. Its comforting knowing that my tummy and waist are feeling smaller while my chest and arms are feeling a bit bigger. It’s been a month and I can’t wait to see what happens after 3 months.
Several quick things that don’t require stories (perhaps some do).
a) I’m meeting someone for tea at Samovar who I’ve had great chats with online. He is moving here for a few months if not permanently (If he can talk his bf into coming too).
b) I’m heading out tonight to Powerhouse to help Daddy Tony pass out flyers for his benefit and demo.
c) I was a missed connection on craigslist. Someone I smile at, who smiled back, put an ad out on craigslist and found me. We talked for about 20 minutes last night and he seems like a nice guy.
I can’t promise to keep anyone up to date here but as always I will try my best.
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April 06, 2006
Reflections Of Life
Its funny how everyday events can reflect life lessons. This mornings lesson is "you have to go to the bus, the bus won't come to you".
A man I almost ran into as I was getting off Muni at Van Ness, stood on one side of the bus stop. I on the other. The bus came, I got on, but the older gentleman didn't.
As the bus pulled away, I saw him from the window of my seat. He was yelling for the bus to stop. The bus didn't.
I think to myself "you can't wait for things or people to come to you. Sometimes they just don't see you till its too late".
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Quick Entry 1
So there have been several new people coming into my life lately and I've been grateful in succeeding at building closer ties with the friends I had. Some will remain aquantances but others I feel will always end up a part of my life.
I realized how much I needed this. To be able to focus on people and friends rather than putting them off because I felt I had to check in to see if it was ok.
I appreciate the friends like Jay, Rick, and Matt who helped me through so much recently and the new people such as James and Spike are proving to be great people to have as friends.
Another person that has come into my life is Daddy Tony, who I met last weekend. He has been in the leather community here about 11 years, and has the best sense of humor. Im hoping to get to know him better as well.
The more I look around my life these days, Im finding more and more people who love me for who I am. Im finding more friends than I thought I had, and more people who want to get to know me (as well as spend time with me). Life isnt all that bad.
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March 15, 2006
Past Week
So last weekend was very good. I went on to gayme night with with several gay.com chatter at another chatter who lives up the road from me. He was a great host and fed us speghetti. I was a bit shy but realized I knew most of the people there. We had wine and played Celebrity which was a lot of fun.
Everyone adds 5 famous names, written down on a piece of paper, to a bowl. There are 2 teams. Each turn is 2 minutes per team and there are 3 rounds. First round, you need to talk out the celebrity while your team mates guess who it is. You get through as many as you can, and keep score on how many you got. The turn is passed back and forth until all the names are guessed.
Round 2 you can only use one word to describe the same celebrities. Once again it goes back and forth until all names are guessed.
Round 3 is charades. You have to act out the same celebrities and the turn goes back and forth until all celebrities are guessed. It was fun but I was home by 10:30.
It also hailed here Friday night which was cool. Actually had lightening which is unusual for San Francisco. It snowed Sunday night in some areas of the city but not on our Street.
Saturday I went with my friend Jay to SFMOMA to see the exhibit on the earthquake of 06. It was a great exhibit and for anyone who may have the opportunity to go, I highly recommend it. I was surprised that Kodak was mentioned many times for the fact that the brownie camera was just catching on. People were buying this box that was able to take pictures for postarity and the box did all the work. It was around the revolution of the camera and just in time to photograph the disaster.
I found more about how SF was rebuilt and learned a lot more about photography history. I never realized that panoramic's were dated back then and for arial shots, some guy from Chicago (I forget the name), used a HUGE camera that he hovered over SF which allowed him to get shots from 2000 feet above ground. The photos were the size of the negatives which had to be about 3 foot by 3 foot. Lots of interesting stuff.
Sunday of course was beer bust. Once again I had a great time. I finally talked to this guy Jerry along with a couple that Ive always been intimidated to talk to. They are known in the leather community here and I get very shy when I talk to guys who are well known. Either way I had a great time and was home around 6.
Tonight I finally found the link to the picture taken at the event I helped out with a few weeks ago at the powerhouse. Its a pic of Matt & me and I have to say, a much better pic of Matt than of me. It was nice to see my face on a website involving the San Francisco scene. Perhaps I should volunteer to help more often (once Im in shape lol)
Tonight I got the chance to talk on the phone with a guy Ive been messaging back and forth with. I ended up on the phone for about an hour and a half talking and it really felt cool to talk to someone for that long without actually getting bored with the conversation. He was pretty cool and hopefully we will hang out this weekend at some point.
As for work, its been going well. Ive been getting a lot of praise on a training manual Ive been working on and finally finished today. They seem really pleased and Im hoping perhaps I can steer my career along that path. Perhaps they will give me more tasks like this since they know I enjoy it and they are pleased with my work. Its nice to get recognized.
In other events, I think I mentioned I joined the gym. I had my first workout on Monday. I took yesterday off and today I felt more sore than Ive felt in a very long time. The past couple of nights Ive been so sore, Ive had trouble sleeping. I was going to go tonight just to stretch again but Jay cancelled and I ended up having coffee with a guy I used to chat with from Toronto who moved here about 6 months after I did. Its the first chance we've had to meet since either of us moved to SF. It went well and perhaps Ill have a new friend from it.
Other than all of that (yeah, my social life seems to be on the move), things have been ok. I realize every day that I can only live one day at a time and take each moment in stride.
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February 25, 2006
The Circle Of Life
So there has been a lot going on lately here and Ive been doing a lot of thinking. Reevaluating things in my life and coming up with peace of mind. Funny thing is, Ive reconnected with inner feelings and thought patterns that I havent been in touch with for years.
Its funny how life does this on occassion. You relearn everything that you had forgot. How to be concious of the world, be in the world, take care of yourself, understand yourself, and own yourself. Thats what Im trying to do these days.
I started reading a book called The Power Of Now and have to say, although Im only on page 30, its reconnected me with feelings and thoughts that I once had about 8 years ago.
The book starts off talking about the voices in our head. The only difference between sane and crazy people is that the crazy ones let their voices be heard on the outside. Now with these voices, we tend to hear them speak of ourselves as two different people. One being the true self and the other being basically a lie. They determine this by an example of one of the many questions we ask ourselves or relate in our mind to others. "How can I live with myself?". This indicates more than one person is present.
So we tend to ask ourselves questions in our head like "why did my partner do that?" or "why did my boss do what she did?". Well with these questions the book teaches us how to listen when we answer (and we really do answer those questions). We create answers to fit our questions regardless if they are true or not. Most likely the answers we create are false and its wasted to think about them.
This leads to thinking too much about things that "are on our minds". Things on our minds are going to be there and should not take time away from observing whats around us by repeating the same scene over and over again in our heads. An example that I created was when I was turning a corner. Have you ever been lost in thought where you turn a corner and you almost run right into someone. You realize in that moment you were day dreaming and not paying attention. The book helps you become aware of whats happening now and in this present moment. Listening to your body, mind, heart, and feelings.
As far as feelings go, Ive also revisited some old philosophies. I wont let anyone make me feel a way other than the way I choose to feel. I used to live by those rules when I had a few people trying to hurt me in Rochester mainly because I was well liked and popular. I wouldnt allow them to make me feel hurt and I am certainly not going to allow myself to feel hurt by someone I care about. Even if I dont agree with some of the things they have done or want to do.
So my New Years resolution was to get to know people better. Reconnect with old friends and spend time getting to know new friends. So far its all been working out great. I realized in order to become good friends, I have to make the investment. Give the time, do the work, and actually do stuff with people.
The past few weeks have been great. Ive been hanging out with Jay more often as well as Rick and Matt. There are a few others that Ive spent more time with than usual but it seems to be a good group of friends that Im gathering.
Last night I helped Matt at the Powerhouse and Jay came by to hang out too (todays his birthday btw). Actually Matt had told his friend Joey that he would help him with a benefit for AIDS Lifecycle. I told Matt Id help as well. We set up a table, sold shots, met people, and really had a lot of fun.
This is the stuff I want to continue to do and hopefully will live up to my resolution.
As I work on getting back to me, Ive also been trying to redesign my website. I was told my blog was "a love letter to Josh" and realized that perhaps there wasnt enough "me" in there. I mean I think Im pretty good at talking about myself but Im really thinking my website and blog should be about me and my life. I mean it is supposed to represent my world right? Of course, my life does include Josh and therefore Im sure he will pop up now and again.
On to photos: for those who didnt get the link to the beer bust pictures at the eagle, sponsored by Harrison Street Fair. You can check out the link for the Beer Bust
Hope to keep you all updated on progress Im making and my journey through the rest of my life. *hugs and kisses*
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February 12, 2006
Update
So I havent written much over the past month. Things have been a bit rocky in life with both relationships and job wise. Im really hoping things begin to improve soon and it does look like things are heading in that direction.
Im discovering once again many facets of my life that need improving. Im learning once again about life.
I guess every so often (and perhaps it comes with age), I tend to get settled, forget what my interests are, who I am, and my interest in improving myself through needed work. I become stagnant in many ways.
Josh and I just reached the 3 year mark and this is the longest relationship either of us has been in. Im not sure if this applies to other relationships or not (some seem so easy and others so difficult) but for me I am seeing it like a puzzle. For 3 years we have put the pieces together based on the fact they all should be in there, even if they arent where they are supposed to go. Now after 3 years, we are finally cleaning out the bad pieces, reorganizing, and going to try and fit them into the puzzle where they actually should fit. Hopefully creating the bigger picture in the process, so we can understand each other and our relationship a bit better, not to mention future relationships that we both could have. Im really feeling good about our future.
One of the things Ive been working on so far is letting myself out a bit more. I mean, I do go out drinking with friends however its been hard to set time aside from drinking to do things and have fun. Part of me has always held back because I didnt want to do stuff without seeing if Josh wanted to do it too. Often he wasnt avaialable and I would end up saying no. Ive stopped doing this because its the only way to build better friendships and create space between us so we can be ourselves.
As for the other stuff going on, I bought a Playstation 2. I know the PS3 should be out in a few months but I didnt want to wait. Ive been bored with surfing the net (if you can believe that) and needed another source of entertainment. I bought God of War which is a fantastic game and Ive been playing it religously. Buffy Chaos Bleeds is next.
Yesterday I went to lunch with my friend Ian at Bagdad Cafe and we stopped in the bookstore. Normally I hate being in the bookstore, at least that was how Ive been for a while. I lost interest a long time ago but when I was young, there wasnt a bookstore in the mall I didnt hit. Weird, I dont remember being so into books but do remember how much I enjoyed looking in the bookstores. Again, I think I became bored with it. I remember once I almost took a job in a bookstore just because it was part time and I could get a discount.
Well this time I spent 20 minutes in one section. The psychology section (which I used to love before). I found a great book called the Power Of Now, which looks like it could lead to some enlightenment about myself.
After that I stopped in Crystal Way and looked at crystals. Amazing how I remembered my interest again way back when. Somehow this was another interest that got lost along the way.
It seems when I date someone and they are interested in something, I feel have to lose my interest. Perhaps they are better at these things than I am. They seem to have more knowledge about these things than I do. I guess by them having more info, instead of learning from these people, I tend to discard my interest. Weird, after 36 years, learning that about myself.
I went down to visit Josh at Zubio and he and I went to a poly meetup. I stayed about 45 minutes and then went to meet some friends for the Chinese New Years parade. My first Chinese New Years parade and it was fun. I dont know if Ive ever seen the streets packed with so many people but the parade was nice. It did seem a bit repetitive though with dragon after dragon, firecracker after firecracker, and pretty lit floats. I got some pics but not a lot.
Afterwards it was back to the center to hang out with Josh some more. His cousin and her husband are staying the weekend so we came home shortly after so we could be here when they got back. Perfect timing cause they showed up about 5 minutes after we did.
Off to dinner, all of us starving. I seem to remember my moms voice when typing that line, "yeah, you look like youre starving". Thai food was fantastic.
Home, fun, and much more. It was a great day overall and hoping today will be better.
The future cant be what you want it to be unless you work at it today. Thats my new phrase to live by.
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January 20, 2006
January 1-January 20
The holidays were long and with New Years past us, things have been pretty good here. Still busy with Life, but I think I've come to the conclusion it would be boring if I stopped living.
There hasn't been too much worthy of talking about lately. I've gotten back into my normal routine of work and play.
I have been going South of Market more often and finding a much better time than I remembered. Seems the places which once left me standing alone and quiet have now some how transformed themselves into the fun times of knowing a few people when I go out.
The past couple of Saturdays I even had fun at the Powerhouse. The place I used to hate has now become fun. The bartenders there seem to be more pleasant toward me than the last time I was there.
Perhaps hair bleached blond and leather don't mix but the place is stand and model. The place is for "pretty" leather men. Anyway, I've been enjoying it as of late.
Josh has been spending more time lately focusing on making friends. At first I was a bit jealous and feeling a bit neglected until he explained it all to me. I came to the conclusion he is in exactly the same place I was when I first moved here. The big difference is I was free tp go out and do my own thing. He hasn't had that chance since finishing school. He's been focused on business and making money. Now hopefully one will lead to the other.
We have also talked more about our friend Bill and have decided he may be the one person who has entered our life that we both feel attracted to and comfortable with. Bill seems to like both of us and with that ll have a date tomorrow for dinner and a movie.
Tonight we are planning to go to a small party being hosted by the owner of Zubio. Josh may have mentioned David Palmer in his posting but for those of you who haven't read his blog in a while, David is considered the father of chair massage and Josh has been working for him for about a month now (3 months training before Zubio finally opened).
I'm a bit nervous about it since I have only met him once (as well as a couple of othe employees) and he will also have some family there. Blessed news came when Josh emailed and said he only wanted to stay an hour. That works for me.
As for parties go, last Saturday was Josh C and his boyfriend Daves housewarming (not to be confused with Josh A aka my bf). It was fun, good food and it was nice to see them as well as his other friends). I do really like kt who always smiles and is really pleasant towards me. I really wish I had more of a chance to get to know her but sometimes finding common ground and time to talk is tough around many people.
Finally work which has been better since vacation. I really enjoy training and have received many compliments on my abilities. I can't boast enough about the people I work with and how much I love working here. The other place in Oakland is now ancient history.
The band marches forward.....
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December 07, 2005
Events of the recent past
Last weekend.
Friday night we went to a poetry reading. I have to say, although I was dressed nice and received quite a bit of response, I still felt out of place. I enjoy doing things with Josh, not for the event a lot of times, but the sake of doing things together.
The experience was nice, although I didn't get a lot of the words spoken. I did however enjoy several poems for the little bit I did catch. Most of the people there either worked at the university or were student of the poet.
The woman who hosted by offering her gallery, kept taking my picture. I'm sure this will end up on the gallery website and when it does, Ill post the link. I counted 3 that she took of me alone and then kindly offered to take one of Josh and myself.
After the reading we went to my coworker Anita's Sweet 16 party. No she really isn't 16 however she is from New Zealand where they don't have such things. She and her roommates threw a nice bash decked out in their prom dresses. Somehow I ended up wearing a dress too (go figure).
There was one moment that kind of caught me off guard and that was a brief conversation I had with a straight guy there while smoking. The conversation went as follows.
The guy: So are you gay?
Me: Yeah
The guy: So hows that working out for you?
Me: Ive been gay all my life.
The guy: So I guess its working out pretty well
Me: My partner of almost nearly 3 years is inside. Id say its working out really well.
*chuckle*.... My thought in the moment was "what a moron". My thoughts now? "what a moron".
So her roommates loved us and Josh has now become Anita's favorite boyfriend. Not just my boyfriend mind you, but her favorite ever!
So not much else happening over the weekend. Josh worked Saturday morning at Zubio. Its been cool seeing him working and doing something he enjoys doing. Last week I brought him lunch. This past Saturday it was only a cookie but I think he appreciates me stopping by which I will probably do again this weekend.
Last night I have to say was perfect. I was tired from a poor nights sleep the night before, and all I felt like doing was having a nice, quiet, relaxing night at home. I got my wish.
Josh had already prepared dinner as much as he could before heading to the office to see clients. All I had to do was cut a sweet potato, add some spices, coat it with olive oil, and throw it in the oven.
He got home around 5:45 and I built a fire. We sat down, watched a movie, drank some wine, had dinner, and enjoyed the fire. It was a fantastic evening. Those are the moments I wouldnt trade for the world.
On another note, I was thinking yesterday as I was sitting outside on the deck smoking "Im sitting here with no shirt on, and with the sun shining on me, and the cooler temps, it makes the temperature just about perfect. In a week and a half, Im going to need more clothes than God himself". How depressing. At least Ill get to see cool people
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August 27, 2005
Our House
This morning Josh and I purchased our tickets to fly home for the holidays. We will be flying into Buffalo the afternoon of December 17th and returning back via Buffalo December 24th. We are uncertain right now of any other details just yet but we are hoping to rent a car for our time there.
Now we have to find some friends and family who can tolorate us for a few days here and there.
On another note, the picture below is our apartment. It was a picture taken from twin peaks. Its kind of scary knowing people who go up there to view the city are so close to looking in our bedroom (bottom windows on the right.) You can even see our plastic table on the deck upstairs. Scary but kind of hot in ways ;-)
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August 06, 2005
Magic Carpet Ride
While my sister was here, the 3 of us (Josh, Michele and I) went down to Pier 39. We did a "no obligation" magic carpet ride in which they made a DVD. It was so funny, we bought the DVD.
I finally figured out how to extract the audio & video and convert it to a quicktime movie. I found a nifty program called Cinematize which did all the work. The page, after compressed ended up being 5.5MB which I uploaded to my website.
For your view pleasure I present Magic Carpet Ride
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August 03, 2005
More Photos
More pictures from my sisters visit.Fishermans Wharf/Pier 39/Alcatraz Golden Gate Bridge/Grace Cathedral Dore Alley Fair
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August 02, 2005
A Week In Review
So my sisters visit was a success. We dropped her off at the airport this morning. She started to cry, which made me cry as well. It was nice to have her here for the week but really wish she could have stayed longer. I get the feeling in some ways, she wishes it was shorter lol.
The food situation went better than I expect (which means it wasnt a total disaster). I come from a family of meat eaters and I do enjoy my meat as well, however my diet nowadays doesnt consist of a lot of meat. Mostly vegitables, healthier whole foods, and rice dishes. Although Ive gotten used to some of the foods, I still enjoy meat once in a while.
My sister on the other hand is used to meat with just about every meal. You have your meat, your vegitable on the side, and something else like bread (of course its regular bread made with enriched flour).
So trying to comprimise between one extreme and the other seemed like a difficult task. It went well however its a good thing both Josh and Michele were both willing to sacrafice some things.
So lets see.. We went to China Town, Union Square, Pier 39, Alcatraz, Fishermans Wharf, we ate at Joes, Grace Cathedral (along with its Labrynth), Golden Gate Bridge, and so much more. Still there seemed like there wasnt enough time to do everything.
We had fun though and did have time to relax. We took lots of video and pictures and thanks to iMovie and iDVD, I was able to put it all on a DVD for her to take home.
So lets see. The highlights being Fishermans Wharf & Pier 39. We made a video on the "magic carpet ride" ride. Its defintely a must see video. Its funny and its a great souvenier.
China town was great. Lots of great deals on Tshirts and keep sakes. Alcatraz was very educational and I actually learned more than I expected to learn. I learned that Alcatraz was originally a different island and when the english confused it with Yuba Beuna Island (which was originally Alcatraz) and started calling it by the wrong name, it caught on and there was a huge debate as to which island was which.
It was also interesting learning how it was at one time just a place they sent minimum security prisoners to work before ever building the prison. They later used those same inmates to build their own cells. One built, they realized how many problems there were with the structure and the salt water was destroying it from within.
Later during the depression it was closed for funding, put up for sale, taken over by native americans which lead to partiers, leading to several fires (which are unsolved mysteries), and eventually the government reclaiming it and putting it up for sale again. During the time it was in use there was many famous criminals such as The Birdman, Al Capone, and Machine Gun Kelly. Eventually the government decided to make it a landmark, preserve the grounds and the history and make it into a state park.
Ok enough about that. The best thing of all was the down time we spent. Just relaxing on the deck and talking. Enjoying a stupid movie, cooking dinner, or even playing on the computer. It was nice that she could come see what life was like for me in CA.
Finally Dore Alley Fair. It wasnt as "unusual" as it has been in previous years. Does that make it unusual in its own? There seemed to be less people naked, less people getting spanked or flogged, and less people performing unnatural acts.
The biggest part of the afternoon was when the music stopped. Someone asked me what happened to the music and I just assumed they were changing DJs. After about 10 minutes of silence, there was chatter. As we looked over to where the dance floor was, there was a chain of people blocking off the area. Behind them you saw a body covered in yellow plastic. Someone had died.
There was a rumor that they jumped but from where it was unknown. The newspaper didnt have anything on it either. I still would like to know what happened.
With that all, it was still nice to see (and hang out with) some friends. From the list, Ben & Steve were there, Matt, Jay, and Rick. Of course Steve, Michele, Josh and I were all hanging out. It was nice to go this year with a larger group of people that I now know rather than in the past few years not knowing anyone.
So that sums it up. The past week in review. Back to work today and back to the normal existance. I do miss my sister though.
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April 26, 2005
I need to journal more often
When we last left our caped crusader, it was Friday morning and not too much to report.
Saturday was nice. I went to lunch with my friend Eric who I haven’t seen in a while. We went to Welcome Home (one of my favorite places to eat). He had never been there so it was nice to show someone else something new (and not in a sexual way lol).
Ste3ve went to pick up Craig at the airport. I have to admit, I was a bit uncomfortable having a guest stay that I don’t know. Not because I’m afraid they are anything less than great, but because I was going to be off half the week and Steve would be working. I was afraid I would be the one entertaining and playing tour guide to a stranger.
Well let’s just say, never judge until you know. When Steve and Craig got back, my first reaction was “he’s cute, but being from Tampa he must be one of those snobs with the nice body and all”.
After hanging out with him a bit, I realized, he is actually funny, laid back, and a really nice guy. With that began a couple of days of site seeing through a tourist’s eye. I realized this gave me and opportunity to see what I would like to do with my sister and Jason when they come to visit this summer.
Sunday we went to the Japanese Tea Garden in Golden Gate Park. I had never been there before but have heard how nice it was. It was nicer than I imagined and I got some great photos (my opinion lol).
After tea garden, we went to beer bust. We ran into a guy from online who immediately recognized Steve from both gay.com and tribe. It was kind of interesting to meet Russet who was nothing like the pictures in his profile. For some reason, I figured he would be much taller and stockier. This wasn’t the case. He was definitely cuter than I could tell from the pics.
So the rest of the day was a blur. Last thing I remember was making out with someone at the bar who had told me they saw me a few weeks earlier at the Edge but were too shy to talk to me. We made out for a little while and then I was ready for home.
After passing out and waking up the next day, I found out that same guy, came back to the apartment with Steve and Craig, and apparently they had an “interesting” time with him. My feelings were a bit hurt but I guess if you snooze you lose and I really didn’t want to do anything with him anyway. I guess it was just the ego because we made out, he said he liked me, and then came back to my apartment with my roomie and the new guy from out of town and fooled around. LOL….
On to Monday. Steve went to work and I figured Craig would take off on his own. When I asked him what he was doing, he said he wanted to go to North Beach and Coit Tower. I’ve wanted to go to Coit Tower for a while so when he asked if I wanted to go, I said sure. So much for “not” playing tour guide.
We had a blast walking around and again took some more great pictures. The story of Coit Tower is that the funding came from a woman who died at 86. She was rescued from a fire at age 8 and grew up as the honorary mascot to the fire department. She enjoyed wearing firemen’s uniforms and when she died, she left the funding that built Coit Tower.
For those who aren’t familiar with it, you see this tower at the beginning of every Charmed episode along with the Trans America building. We walked around North Beach, had Irish coffee at 11am at the famous Irish Coffee house (this is where Irish Coffee originated. Yes, this is true and no it wasn’t in Ireland).
He also made me (yes I was forced) to ride the cable cars. This is just one of those things locals only do when you have visitors in from out of town.
We wandered a bit through Washington Square Park and found a cute little Italian Pastry shop. I haven’t had really good Italian pastries in a long time so it was a nice place to find. We also had lunch in the Italian district at a cute little pasta place. Calzonie’s I believe it’s called but cant quite remember.
Finally, walking back to Market St we went through China town. I still need to get back there soon and get a couple of things but perhaps Ill do that tomorrow.
Today has just been a relaxing day for me. I let Craig go off and do his thing. He was originally going to go to the Golden Gate Bridge but decided to relax in Dolores Park instead.
I’m doing laundry for Thursday so I can leave for Heartwood. Josh had a list of things he needed and with frustration I was able to get most of it done. It was frustrating mainly because they were downloads which tend to be time consuming. As we all know, you kind of have to be there watching things, checking things to make sure they work, and when it comes to complete albums and software, it can take hours.
I found 2 albums (with the exception of one song) as well as the program he wanted. Finding the serial number took a while but I finally found it as well. The only thing I didn’t find was one album he wanted, which Ill looks one more time this evening.
As for the rest of the day, I am going to finish laundry, have Thai with Steve and Craig, and then most likely head out for a night of drinking. Tonight will be my last night out before Josh graduates (not that I mind “not going out” because I’m really looking forward to spending time together again and getting our lives started again). I just want a last taste of being here on my own and being able to do it.
Well once again I’ve learned I shouldn’t put off journaling. Soon I will be updating my web page and creating something new. It’s definitely time to change it again. I have updated some things on it, but it still has a lot of work to go.
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April 17, 2005
Life and just to journal.
So theres a few things to discuss. First is how life changes so much, so quickly. Its hard to believe its been nearly a year now since I moved. I think back to my life, the life between Josh and I, back in Rochester, and so much has happened. Yeah, I know you've heard it all before, but for some reason it seems I am never ableto express my inner thoughts.
For the first year or so of our relationship, I was passive, gave in to just about everything, and pretty much put my likes, dislikes, wants, desires, and most things, on the side for the relationship. I didnt care because it was who I was or so I thought.
After a being apart nearly 9 months, being in a new city, and having to create a life here for myself, I somehow discovered my own independence again and realized how much I missed it. I realized recently how much I did give up and put on the side and in a few short weeks, I will have to give it all up again. At least it feels that way.
Truth is Im afraid. Afraid that if I reclaim who I am, start being the individual again that I once was, I may just find that there isnt alot in common with Josh and that frightens me a bit. Can we still be the people we are without losing our identity? Can we be the people we are and still care so much about each other. I know we love each other very much but is that (or will that) be enough. I guess only time will tell.
So San Francisco. The land of stereotypes and fags. The land of bears in utility kilts (and theres a lot), masculine guys in dresses, the land where every starbucks (every corner) has a line going out the door. The land where gay is a population and straight is a community. The land of homeless people who are truly homeless. The land of the golden gate bridge, transamerica tower, Bart, Muni, golden gate park, union square, coit tower, castro, ghiradelli chocolate, Margeret Cho, fishermans wharf, alcatraz, bakers beach, and so much more. A land without a bathhouse.
Im not sure why Im writing about that stuff just for the sake of writing it and realizing once again what a fantastic city I live in. I do still find it odd that they havent over turned the law on bathhouses here yet. Its been 2 decades since they closed them down.
On one hand I can see the point, safe sex, but they have sex clubs for crying out loud. They have places that hold play parties, and pretty much one of the most sexual cities Ive been to. I would think regulating sexual activity via a bath house would be a great way to promote (and remind people about) safe sex.
So yesterday we went to Mr S leather..... For those who dont know, its like the Toys R Us of leather (and sex toys). We checked out the CB3000's, and also got to see a electric um... toy(s). They now have (and perhaps they always did) a cockring, but plug, straps, and such which connect to a battery pack which can be controlled with a remote.
You can use this for several toys (sold seperately). Cock ring, sends electric shocks under your testies, butt plug to stimulate your anus, and even straps where you can attach one to your arm, the other to someones dick and when you fist them, the arm band will touch the anus and stimulate the person being fisted. The remote comes in handy (which I saw demonstrated at The Eagle last Sunday) for being in a bar and being able to shock someone from a distance who is wearing the device. It was quite interesting and I soooooo want one.
On that note, tonight Josh and I are supposed to go to some concert. I forget what kind but Im definitely open to the new experience. I will let you know how it goes.
This week ahead? Job hunting, school stuff, and on Thursday I buy my bus ticket for Josh's graduation, Jasons plane ticket to come visit for pride, and thinking perhaps Margeret Cho tickets for June. I havent decided yet on that.
As for the work situation, Friday I went in for an interview and testing with a medical placement service. I did well on the testing which surprised me for some reason. I guess I knew I knew the info but I had never been tested on it and for the most part its been a while since I had training in billing and medical terminology.
I explained what I wanted and she really thought I should rework my resume from billing and health insurance to administrator type work. Those will pay what I want, and she seemed to think she could find me something in that field. Who knows what will happen but I did the work and emailed her a new resume.
Thats about it. Hope everyone had a great weekend and as always, I appreciate you reading. Comments always welcome.
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April 14, 2005
Learning
Several things are happening right now and everything seems to be happening for a reason. The first thing and foremost is school vs. working. Ive been persuing both, although school a bit more. I now understand what at one time seemed so simple.
When Josh was planning out his school about a year ago (which I can hardly believe it was a year ago), I kind of felt as an outsider may, that the routine and planning should be fairly easy. Filling out forms, and making a few phone calls. I was so wrong and now Im realizing that.
Several things come into play. First, can I get a live person on the phone and not get their voicemail to call me back. When they do call me back, could it please be a time when Im not running out the door. I feel like because I have time in the afternoon, I want to be out doing stuff, running errands, and to call me on my cell would just be hard since I would be in no position to talk to them if they did call.
Then there is the issue of who does what at the school. Who handles admissions? Not so much which office but who do I need to talk to? Who do I need to talk to about financial aid? What paperwork do I need and what are the next steps I need to take to make this happen? This is all based on a fact that I have made a decision on a specific school and which course of study I want to take. Both have different sets of classes and which one will be best for me. God, so much research and time.
The other thing I realized is that my basic math skills suck. In school I did really well in Math. All forms from Trig to Business. Now Im finding all those things I learned in school, have somehow been forgotten including basic math skills.
I wondered how some people's writing skills and math skills could deteriorate over the years and now Im understanding how. If you arent using them regularly, they tend to become unimportant to us. I guess sometimes it seems unimportant if you arent using them. I think "wow, I forgot about denominators, and numerations. Ive forgotten whole numbers. Ive forgotten simple stuff like adding and subtracting fractions. How could this happen without me seeing it."
Its funny, although I did better in Math than English in school, I somehow have changed that around. I took the sample test this morning for both English and Math, and realized I did much better with the English portion. Of course I know I dont have the best spelling or grammar but it seems my skills are still much better. God I need to brush up on that stuff. It took me about 2 hours just to get through the sample, with researching "how to do it" and figuring it all out again.
Along with all this school stuff, and figuring out what I need, I have also welcomed the notion of submitting a few resume's here and there just to see what happens. Who knows, perhaps my skills will get me the dream job that pays 60k at least. You never know so therefore Im welcoming all options.
As for other things going on, Ive been feeling a bit overwhelmed and lost with it all. Ive been slipping into old habbits which I know all too well. Recognizing patterns in my life that seem to go along with older habbits. Ive been out drinking more because Ive had free time. I havent been worrying too much about cash flow because of it. Ive also been neglecting saving money for the things that are important. Ive been taking for granted the fact that cash will be available somehow and history shows me that if I keep spending I will end not end up doing what I really want to do. This knowledge hasnt seemed to stop me but has made me aware of whats happening in my life. Its much easier to go out drinking and have fun than face whats ahead.
With this Im planning on calming things down a bit and relaxing. I spent the last 2 nights at home and have gotten to sleep at a decent time. It felt really good to actually stay in for a change. Im just hoping I can continue this pattern and hopefully find people who want to do other stuff other than going to a bar and drinking. I know people are out there.
On another note, Im excited about 2 visits this summer that are now almost definite. Im not sure if I mentioned it in previous emails but Jason wants to come visit and should be coming for pride. We should know more next week when we can finally make it definite. Also my sister wants to come for Dore Alley Fair at the end of July, which we will probably make happen and know more come May or June.
As for me, right now, Im heading outside. Its a beautiful sunny day and I need to get my daily walk in down in the Castro. Ive been taking an hour or two just to get out of the house and its always nice to sit on the corner of Castro & Market with a cup of coffee and watch the hot gay boys & men get on and off MUNI lol. I also know a few people now so I occassionally will run into someone I know. It feels good. :)
Later I meet my friend Ben and his bf Steve for a few cocktails. I plan on behaving and just having a few. Who knows what will happen. :)
PS: Have I mentioned time has been blending together and I sometime forget which month, date, or day of the week it is. I need a schedule lol.
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April 12, 2005
Things happen
Ok, once again its catch up time. God I wish I was much better at journaling every day. Truth is Ive felt a bit lost in my search for my hearts desires. Although I want to try and persue a career in photography, Im not looking at everything and saying to myself "its a lot of work. Do you want it bad enough?". I havent had an answer yet.
So I mentioned a bit about the weekend and how for some odd reason Ive apparently become hot. I have really hot guys stop after they pass, turn around, and walk back just to say hi to me. I have met a ton of new people, and perhaps some will become useful in my future.
So Saturday: Happy hour at Detour. It was quiet there which I kind of liked for a change. I met the bartender Brian and got a chance to talk to him enough so that he now remembers me and says hi when Im out lol. Most of the time, if its a busy bar, its hard to remember "people" so I was happy to get the chance to meet him and get drunk in his presence.
I spent the afternoon hanging out with my friend Jay, and a guy Ive chatted with online who is here from Boston. We hung out at the window at Detour making fun of people as they walked down Market. Actually he made fun of them and I said hi to most people walking past. Im the friendly one ya know :)
Sunday was a great day as well. Hung out with my friend Rick early in the afternoon walking around Castro, then headed to the mission where I found a great pair of sunglasses for $5. We came back to Castro, dragged Steve out for lunch, and the 3 of us headed over to beer bust at the Eagle. Met Jay there and a couple of other people I knew (Im actually getting to know people YAY!).
It was a fun afternoon. I actually paced myself so I could go back and finish off the drinking in the Castro. We went to Edge and the Daddys where I ran into a couple of guys I had met previously along with another really cute guy named Geoff. I did my famous "make out at the bar" routine with him, and exchanged phone numbers. It was great to hang out with Steve for a change and from what I know, he had a pretty good time as well.
So Monday came, and I was excited. A day without alcohol, and off to get tickets to the movies that evening. They had Gene Wilder in person from 5:30-7, and were playing back to back on the big screen Willie Wonka & Young Frankenstein. Steve and I were both pretty excited about it so I ventured the buses and headed down and bought tickets.
My first time in that area (at least that I know of). I was surprised to find I actually liked the neighborhood. I found a great little coffee shop which I had a tuna sandwhich and it was the best tuna sandwhich Ive ever had. I couldnt help but to think how much Josh would have enjoyed it there.
So home, nap, and getting ready for the evening. Jason called and we are going to try and plan his visit for pride in June. Im so excited. Visitors to show SF to. My sister will be hopefully coming at the end of July for Dore Alley Fair.
So here's the downer, and Im not sure if Im sorry I missed the movies, or if I feel even worse for Steve but their systems started having problems and he got stuck at work. No Gene Wilder for him and without being able to find a replacement, I just axed the idea. Im not one for going alone. Poor Steve never made it home until around 11pm :(
For some reason I was really ok with not going. I got a call from my friend Kevin (you may remember him from previous entries. He and his bf moved out here a few years ago). He wanted to know if I wanted to meet him for a drink. My first reaction was "Ive been drinking for the past week or so and not sure if I can handle much more". The lush in me quickly said "you havent had a chance to hang out with him since you've been here, just go". So I met him at The Mixx and had a few drinks. It was kind of nice talking about people we both knew and he introduced me to some great people.
One of which may in time become a possible job opportunity for me. I met a guy who was recently laid off and looking to start a billing and coding company of his own. Things for him right now are only at the beginning stages, but it sounded like it had potential. Since he isnt really looking right now for an employee (but will in the next few months) and I dont want to look for a job right now but in a few months, it may work out well. So I emailed him my resume and will see what happens.
I left the Mixx around 7:30 and as Kevin stopped to get cash from the ATM a few doors down, another really cute guy checked me out, stopped at the Mixx door, told his friends he'd be back, then walked all the way back to introduce himself to me. His name is Drew and he is again HOT!
So that was my weekend. A bit much to remember, a bit much to read, and a bit long to type. If you've made it this far, congratulations it almost over. Today, having lunch with a friend Ive chatted with for a while but havent had the chance to meet. YAY!!! Ill get my financial aid stuff done (hopefully), my 599 for unemployment to see if they approve school (hopefully), and look for jobs and see what happens. Im hoping things will fall into place soon.
Success! The End!
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